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Hey there,

Maybe you can communicate with your girlfriend about what is going on. You can let her know you definitely understand why she is keeping things a secret, since you're in a similar boat. But, you can also tell her that you are worried that this relationship will be difficult, and you want to put things in place now to make it easier on yourselves. Maybe you can discuss possible solutions such as a time to come out to your families (such as when both of you would be safe to do so), or things the two of you can do to cope with keeping it a secret. Honesty and communication is key, so maybe if you talk it over, you'll have your mind eased and find ways to potentially solve some of the problems that you're going through.

Congratulations on entering a relationship, I do hope things work out!

-Dez