[Philomath]

I'll have to say bullied.
I know that what I have gone through has taught me a whole lot about the world, so many lessons and in some ways what I have been through has allowed me to see the world differently than a lot of people.
If my child were bullied, I'd do my best to support them, communicate constantly with school and do other things that would be helpful in stopping what was occuring.
If they were the bully, I would support them too and try to teach them what they are doing is wrong but I believe that with where I have been I would be able to better empathize with my child.
I think another part of this equation is that bullies become bullies after going through bullying themsleves in a lot of situations.
Really tough question!