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Re: Culture Shock and Anxiety - October 2nd 2013, 11:42 PM

Hello, and welcome to TeenHelp!

I can imagine how difficult it must be to stay in a country where you don't know the native language, don't know anyone (on a personal/intimate level), and don't have many resources (ex. money and transportation).

First, take a deep breath. As bad as you may feel right now, remind yourself that regardless of what happens, this situation is TEMPORARY. Whether it's in a few days or a few months, you'll be back home and will be able to move on from this experience, regardless of whether it ends up being a good or bad experience.

Second, since you don't have many options for how to spend your free time, this may be the perfect opportunity for you to truly REFLECT on what you want to accomplish. You said you did this once before (moving on a whim) and that it turned out to be a bad experience. Think about what pushed you to make these two decisions. What is it you really want out of life? Come up with some clear goals, and perhaps you'll stop making decisions on a whim, as you'll have a very strict sequence of events to follow. Some people don't know what they want - they just know they don't want what they have now, so they blindly change things up, hoping their situation will improve. That's obviously not going to cut it for you, short- or long-term.

Finally, once you have a "plan of attack," figure out what your next step is toward accomplishing your goals. Maybe you'll discover staying where you are is exactly what you need to do. Maybe you'll discover going home immediately is what you need to do. Maybe you'll discover going home, saving money, and waiting for the opportunity to go to a different country is what you need to do. Only you can decide what's right or wrong in this situation... and in order to make that decision, you'll need to do a lot of reflecting.

Good luck! Feel free to keep posting here if you want more support/advice. =)