[mindflower]

First of all, my highest respect goes out to you, a 17-year-old girl who believes in abstinence. If he doesn't respect that, it isn't worth your time. I will say that a blow-job is exactly what oral is, there's no way to really get around the fact that it is sexual behavior. Granted, it isn't as extreme, but I see where your concern comes into play.

With that being said, you guys should really just have a talk about it. Like, not to make this about me by any means, but I was very scared about the same thing, I only dated my ex-boyfriend for a couple weeks and we started doing things, and that was moving way too fast. Now, I don't know how long you and your boyfriend have been dating, but if its long enough for him to think asking for a blow-job is reasonable, then it is by FAR long enough to be able to talk about your fears and concerns, and if needed, hold off longer. He has already considered your reasoning if he is insisting for your benefit that it isn't sex, which it isn't, but you have to okay this just as much as he has to.

I can't tell you for sure what will happen, but its better than doing something you don't want to do, and if he feels the same about you that you do about him, he will understand.

Best of luck Nikki