[Lizzie]

Originally Posted by Bethivy

He is only in the childs life because I pushed him to be.

That doesn’t guarantee that if you stopped pushing him he wouldn’t still want to be a part of the baby’s life. Now he has a bond a connection with his child and that is difficult to break.

I just wanted to make the point that it’s difficult being in a relationship with someone who has a child with another person. Because that child (and it will seem like the child’s mother as well) will always come first in his life. And quite frankly, that is how it should be. You already mentioned that you feel jealous of their time together; maybe as time passes you will feel better about the situation. But maybe you won’t. The only thing you know for sure is that he will always have a child. No matter what. And that child will have to come before you. Is that something you are willing to live with the rest of your life?