I think the key thing from your post is this line:
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Originally Posted by LauraXx
I'm not sure if I want to have sex or not
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To me that would suggest that at this stage, it's probably too soon for you. If you're worrying about the potential consequences of it (and thinking about them in itself shows a fair amount of maturity it has to be said, so kudos to you for that), and you're not reconciled with them in your own mind, then it's probably best to wait until you are. That doesn't mean just sitting there and waiting until it all clicks, I should add - the most important thing, as has already been pointed out, is talking these things over with your boyfriend, with a sexual health advisor and anyone else you feel able to talk about it with. Communication is key after all, particularly with your boyfriend as he'll want to understand your concerns. So talk about the issues you've mentioned, and see how you feel about it all after doing so.
As a final point, what I would stress above all else is that what matters most is when
you feel ready for it. This isn't meant as a scare tactic, but I know a fair few people who have had sex for the first time because of feeling pressure to do so - from boyfriends/girlfriends/peers etc - and regretted it as they weren't ready in their own minds for it. When all is said and done, it's a personal decision and while your boyfriend has said he wants to move to that stage (which is fair enough) you should make sure you're comfortable with that rather than feeling under some obligation to. Likewise, how other people may respond to it isn't particularly important in the grand scheme of things - it's down to how ready for it you feel deep down.