How can I explain it? How can I explain what its like to be stripped of your dignity and safety? How can I explain how my world was turned upside down? Do you know what makes it worse? I got told by many people that rape victims ask for it, but the night that it happened, I was walking home from a friends house at 7:30
pm, I wore a pair of black skinny jeans, a batman t-shirt, my hi tops and a plain black pull over hoodie tied around my waist and I still get told that I asked for it. So what can I wear what doesn’t make me vulnerable for rapists? I told the police, I gave them a two hour interview, I gave them my clothes and I had a medical examination and they ‘searched’ for the guy, but after nine days they told me they were shutting the case because apparently it wasn’t ‘top priority’. If young girls being raped isn’t top priority, then what is? I was told that what I wore was the cause, that if I dressed differently I wouldn’t of been raped. I was then told that I looked different, that I was asking for it, because I can’t let go of the abuse that my Dad done to me and that they can spot someone who is weak. Does that still make it okay? Because I dressed differently and I look weak, does that make it okay for someone to rape me? Because that’s what society are teaching people, that the victims and survivors of rape are the people who cause the sexual assault, that the way we dress, the way we look, even the colour of our skin can cause us to provoke rapists. Does that mean that it’s the victims fault, that its okay for someone to rape, because the victims asked for it…Well Does?
I wrote this when I was angry because I was told that I was the 'type' of person to get abused, raped ect. Tell me what you think.