[Brandon]

I've been dating my girlfriend for over two years now and we typically see each other every weekend. We see each other a lot more now considering I had to quit my job due to certain circumstances, so I don't really need to wait till Friday afternoon to go see her for the weekend. But assuming I had a job that was during weekdays, we'd have sex once or twice a weekend. To me, a good weekend is having sex once; a great weekend would be twice. A fantastic weekend would be 3+ times, and I don't think we've had sex more than twice in a three day period.

The problem with only seeing each other every weekend is the anticipation. I get excited for the weekends because I expect to have sex at some point during the weekend. She and I both know that if we don't have sex, I will be disappointed. I'm horny 24/7 when I'm with her and I'd be a little bit upset going home considering I didn't really satisfy any cravings. Granted, if she's on her period or her pH is off-balance and I know for a fact that I'm not getting sex, then I'll take any opportunity during the weekend to watch porn on her computer and get it over with so I won't feel as bad. I'll never watch it in front of her, however, because she just isn't attracted to that sort of thing. This leaves little room for watching porn if I ever need to take matters into my own hands, but I've never really had a problem. The real question is "would it be normal if I didn't expect sex every time I saw her?" If she's on her period, I know I won't be having period sex any time soon even though I'd consider it. If my girlfriend is having problems with her pH, we won't have sex simply because I'm not THAT gross. If I know for certain that she's about to get off her period, I'm going to hope and pray that she gets off her period Sunday so that I can take her to poundtown before I leave to go back home. For the most part, however, it'd be weird for me to not expect sex at some point. No, I don't anticipate to have sex every time we see each other; honestly, I could have sex every 12 hours and I'd be well satisfied, but I know that realistically...I'm only expected to get lucky once every couple or so days. Realistically, if we moved in together (not possible for a while)...we'd probably end up having sex even less because I'm about 99% more horny than she is at all times, and I'd probably get sexually frustrated and end up having a high dependency on porn to keep me going.

If you've only been going out for 7 months, you've been going out for a while but it's really too soon to judge what is and isn't normal. If you both are always horny for each other, there's not a problem. It doesn't matter if you have sex 20 times a day, 2, or 0. The important thing is that you're both sexually satisfied. I know how difficult it is, but I think it'd be much more satisfying to make sure that you're not having sex because you have the opportunity, but because you both are in the mood for that opportunity. There's a distinct difference in the two. If you have sex "because he's here" or "because we have the house to ourselves" rather than because you're actually in the mood then I'd say that you have a problem. But if you have sex when things come naturally, I'd say that's more of the normal route that relationships should take. Granted, it's not easy to have a little bit thinking "damn...he looks real good right now since he's with me..." but it's something that we have to learn to control.