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I know that "your young, you have time" is often wasted words for a lot of people. If you want a girlfriend/boyfriend those words don't help if it's not happening when you want it.

The reality is that I have to wonder what you are trying? Because "trying and trying" can come off as desperation and/or overkill. For example, there is a fine line between being a gentleman,.... And being creepy.... Like I'd have guys who liked me come up and insist on carrying my books and binders for me and it was like "wtf, I have arms I can carry my own shit", I sort of feel like sometimes guys go overboard trying to impress girls and, for me at least, it can be really off putting. It's hard when you're young to experience where the fine line is because you don't want to freak out thinking "oh god, is this girl right? am I doing things that actually are not attractive to girls in potential boyfriends?" and go away intending to be super subtle. The nice thing about being young is that you can take the time to experiment with different things, find out how to talk to girls how works for you.

And what is most important is not to just try to pick up any ol' cute girl. Take the time to get to know her and se if you really like her instead of locking you're fingers in determined to get her to fall for you the second you decide she's cute, take your time to get to know her and all that, it'll give her the time to get to know you soon so you can both see what the other has to offer. PLUS relationships usually build up over time, start small, casual subtle flirting, showing an interest in talking to her etc., ask her out for lunch and so on, then add more things on until it's relationship time. I had guys who were SO creepy in their attempts, like this guy I had 0 interest in so I had already friend-zoned him (which isn't a bad place to be in my books), but one day he's texting me saying how one of the first times he saw me he thought I looked like an angel and that he wanted to know if I thought he was attractive too (erm... definitely not) and was just saying all this other shit that was super awkward for me, like he was convinced that I had to have some weird motive to have texted him that morning (aka that i liked him) as opposed to the fact that I merely felt like saying hi and catching up cause, well, he's an ok enough guy and we hadn't talked since he left the place we worked at about a month earlier, and when I confirmed that I was doing was texting to say hi, to catch up and see how summer school was going for him it was like he didn't believe me... It was SO awkward for me...

So like I said, there is a fine line between flattery and being a gentlemen and between being awkward, creepy and going overboard. All you can really do is learn from your experiences, and even reading dating magazines and websites (is there a male equivalent of seventeen and cosmopolitan?, you could also reasonably discreetly buy those 2 magazines if you want to go directly to the female perspective, I stress discreetly because you probs don't want other guys bugging you even though it might help... they're both on the internet if that helps).... Eventually you will meet the right girl, but you have to realize it might not happen right away