[Kate*]

Here's an idea if you want me to stop defending myself, stop putting me in situations where I feel a need to defend myself. I don't understand why standing up for myself when I feel jumped on is somehow WRONG now, it used to be the other way around.

Get comfortable with ambiguity, you don't know me and I'm not divulging what I went through in a professional public forum; even if it is relevant because of how it would reflect on me. I was NEVER told that there was "one right way", I just failed a class after being told for 3 months that I did everything WRONG and then the (doc student) professor basically told me I don't belong in the profession. Which was COMPLETELY uncalled for. That kind of goes against what you're saying!

If only you knew how wrong you are, some people are so f***ing IGNORANT!