[Catharsis.]

Hi, Barb!

Firstly, congratulations on being self-harm free for so long!

As for your boyfriend, I agree with Natalie above. It would appear that he really needs professional help. You can't be bearing the full responsibility for his mental health yourself. If it's a case that he is already, you could make sure that he's getting the support he needs from it, because he mightn't feel like he can trust the person he's seeing.

These sort of conversations really don't help, and I can imagine how draining they are, so make sure you take care of yourself as well.

All the best!