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Re: Worried about my boyfriend going to college? -
April 14th 2013, 02:12 PM
To be honest it would be hard for him to spend 8-9 hours on the road almost every weekend or every other weekend as a university student at the best of times and then lose all that time studying that he's spending with you instead especially if he takes a bus they always take at least 50% longer. And that's before factoring in a demanding program and/or work or co-ops or what ever else. So yes, your actual physical contact will be limited. You will not likely see each other except during school breaks and maybe on weekends where his work is under control enough that he can bring some of it with him. That's the reality for most university students. When I was in first year I couldn't go home because I was to far away but a lot of my friends or floormates were from an hour or 2 away and they'd go home all the time on weekends. Half the time i think they only went to study somewhere more comfortable since the residence was hidious inside but none the less, unless people are going home for special occasions most of us don't bother because most students have work to do and do it at school. Not to mention that he'll eventually have friends who he'll want to spend time with on the weekends instead of, again, spending 8-9 hours on the road all the time... I'm not trying to be harsh, that's just the blunt reality of it...
So that being said, you don't necessarily have to freak out. Yes, it's scary knowing you love him so much and that he's leaving. Yes, it's scary to think about how hard it'll be to see him. Yes, you guys could grow away from each other. There are all these things that COULD happen because he's going away to school. But i have had other friends where one partner was still in high school and the other went to college and it worked out, so if you guys were meant to be it'll work. You just have to start establishing realistic means to keep communicated, like maybe you guys decide to skype every thursday at 8:00 PM or that you'll talk on the phone every day before you guys go to school etc. You guys could always commit to minimum 2 conversations a week: a skype date and a phone call, set them up at a time that'll work for both, commit to rescheduling if for some reason you won't be able to make the usual time. There are things like that would make long distance a lot easier and les scary.
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