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Work Place Romance? - March 10th 2012, 11:26 AM

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So I just started this job and I'm crazy for this co-worker; the first time I locked eyes on her my heart melted..lol She even came up to me several times to make a conversation and gave me slight nudges when we joked around.

What are some other ways you guys think would mean she's intrested, also how to tell if she's single?

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Re: Work Place Romance? - March 10th 2012, 11:31 AM

To find out if she's single or not; just get to know her better. Find out her background OUTSIDE of work. You can't just jump in and say "Are you single?" That's pretty obvious, dontcha think?

Also, I'd be careful with work-place romances. Many places don't advise it AND it's even against some "code of conducts" for work. I know at my place of employment, we can't date within our own hospital, but we can't date people who work at others (I work for an animal clinic that's run out of PetSmart's, called Banfield). It just causes a "conflict of interest" in their eyes, so I would look into that before taking anything further.











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Re: Work Place Romance? - March 10th 2012, 12:37 PM

You should get to know her better, get to know her outside of work and take it from there. If you start hanging out and getting to know each other, you'll find out if she's single and there is a chance you can find out if she's interested with how she reacts with you outside of work but as Shannon said, I'd double check what your works policy is on dating. I know that at the place I work at, you need to inform them of the relationship so you should check that.
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Re: Work Place Romance? - March 11th 2012, 06:07 PM

I agree with the above. If you would like to find out if she's interested in you, ask her out for something non-invasive like a cup of coffee or something outside of work. She will let you know in one way or another how she feels.

HOWEVER, I would also like to say that it can be a slippery slope if you start dating someone you work with. There's a reason the expression "Don't shit where you eat" exists. If anything turns sour it can wind up pretty bad. Just be careful and take everything into consideration, maybe progress a little more slowly.


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Re: Work Place Romance? - March 15th 2012, 01:40 PM

i know what you mean, im in the same boat with this guy from work. but things are a bit more obvious and hes a bit older. but, things have gotten awkward since we started kissing and stuff, i have no idea what to do.
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Re: Work Place Romance? - March 15th 2012, 07:41 PM

Work place romances can get you into a lot of trouble. You and her could stay madly in love for the rest of your lifes and never get in trouble. Or you could A. get fired or B. end up breaking up with her and then you work with your ex girlfriend. I am not trying to put a rain cloud over your feelings for her. It just happens to too many people.

As for finding out how she feels, like everyone has said, get to know her better and she should make it clear if she is single or not. Good Luck
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Re: Work Place Romance? - March 15th 2012, 09:07 PM

Best advice is tread carefully. Leaving aside the very valid point made that it could be in breach of your employer's code of conduct, it could make things very awkward indeed whether things go well or badly. If things go well then it could make things more uncomfortable for your colleagues depending on how workplace interactions change; if things go badly, well, that speaks for itself. That said, I do know of workplace romances which have stood the test of time and avoided the pitfalls, but they are relatively few and far between. By all means get to know her better - in a more general sense, that's part of being a good co-worker (and probably one aspect I need to improve in my work, but hey) - but anything more than friends is best approached with caution.


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