Soon to be marine boyfriend, marry young? Move on base? Put college on hold?

[Rach0123]

I'm 16 years old my boyfriend is almost 18, in January. He's going into the marines once he graduates. That's two summers away and not far at all. I plan on going to nursing school to be an RN. The problem is I play softball and could get a scholarship. but to be with my boyfriend I can't accept it because e can be stationed anywhere. I really love him. And I know I'm not to young because you just know when it's true. Im worried my parents won't support this situation. But I personally know it's worth giving up. And I'm still unsure how to tell my parents this is what I want. Any advice? On anything here?, I'd appreciate it
-rachel

[Maloo]

You should put yourself first. You have no idea what's going to happen in the future, and sorry, but you ARE young. My boyfriend (before he met me) turned down a scholarship to a school in Florida because of a girlfriend back home. Guess what? They broke up anyway.

There is absolutely no reason to rush and get married just to be on base with him. Let him go through boot camp and all his training first and see if you guys even still want to be together. If you can't handle being apart for just boot camp and training, then you'll never be able to deal with him getting deployed.

[Harmony♥]

Lissa said it right on. Usually, I'm very supportive of military couples, however, you are young. You're 16 years old, and your boyfriend is nearly 18 and choosing a life for himself. Is he expecting you to drop everything to live with him? If so, you shouldn't. Focus on yourself. Education is extremely important, and even though the military has wonderful benefits for their soldiers and spouses, it doesn't always work out the way we want it.

Also, to live on base with him, you'd have to be legally married, and to 18 years old too.

[Dr.Bobby]

Rachel, take a deep breath here, you've got two years to make a decision!

It's understandable to want to plan things out, especially when there's a goal in mind (marriage), which is driven by emotion (love), and you have a particular person in mind (him!). However, as they say, "Time tells". So, although you might feel better making a decision now, there's really too much time btw'n now and when you'd have to execute that decision, too much that's now unaccountable for can still affect the end result.

Sit with it for a while and see how life unfolds.

[VampirePrincess]

Situations have a way of working themselves out over time. No one, not even your soulmate, is worth putting your entire life on hold for. I say stick with your plan. Be your own person while he is his own person. He'll visit you from time to time, you'll get your degree, and when you're done with school he'll have a nice sum of money from the military to pay off your student loans with and to use for your wedding!

A lot can happen in two years, it really can. Enjoy what time you have together now, and when it gets closer you'll know what the right decision for you is.

[CherriesBlossom]

This is always a tough situation. I feel like if I were in this situation I would accept the scholoarship, get an education, and then see if you two are still meant to be. If you really want to be together and love eachother than you two will find a way. But no sacrafice your education for him. If you feel that comfortable then around the time he leaves you two could get engaged but you don't have to rush into marriage.

[Angeal]

Hey Rachel I'm almost in the same situation, but not at the same time. My boyfriend is going into the army, he turns 18 in March and I turn 18 in April. We plan on getting married not too long after my birthday(still havn't told dad) All I can say is talk to your boyfriend about it and see if you can't work out a plan for you to take the scholarship and go to college. If not just wait till hes stationed somewhere and go to a community college, plus there are always online corses you can take. Really I would just follow your heart and talk things out with him. Best of luck.

[fou4thdimension]

I have to agree with what many have said. Don't give up the scholarship and your future. You are still young, and until you're put in the situation where you realize what you've just given up and can't have it again, it's a bad place to be. It'd be best to take the scholarship and to talk to your bf. Where there's a will, there's a way. You'll be able to find a way to make things work with him still in military and you at school.