relationship advice???

Em0bxy · **relationship advice??? -** March 25th 2025, 09:28 AM

Okay, I'm dating this guy who is a fabulous man...but I want to break up with him. We've been dating for 2 months and a handful of days, but throughout then I found out he isn't attracted to women, and I've recently came to the conclusion that I didn't really like him romantically. I don't have contact with him currently, so for now it's us dating still, but I'm just curious, how do I break up with him...? My heart always confuses best friend feelings and crush feelings, and that's what happened here, we're just really good friends, and that's it. I just don't want to break his heart. He's so attached to me, but when I came back out as a women to him last time, he made me feel like I had to be a boy for him since he's "not attached" to women. I want the freedom to be able to be me, but at the same time, I think I'm a little too young for dating...cause I'm only 12.

¯|_(ツ)_|¯ · **Re: relationship advice??? -** March 25th 2025, 09:10 PM

I think it’s okay to just be honest with him and tell him that you realized you don’t have romantic feelings for him and only see him as a friend. No matter what you say it’s not going to feel great, but it would hurt worse to either lie or sugarcoat it.

Em0bxy · **Re: relationship advice??? -** March 25th 2025, 11:12 PM

I just don't want to hurt him because he's already so attached, and I'm pretty sure I might be a lesbian, but the only person I've actually reomantically liked was a female...

Arturiano · **Re: relationship advice??? -** March 28th 2025, 12:10 PM

It sounds like you’re in a really tough situation, and I can understand how complicated it must feel. Breaking up with someone, especially when they care about you, is never easy. It’s great that you’re thinking carefully about his feelings, but it’s also important to prioritize your own feelings and be true to yourself.

It’s okay to say that you’ve realized you see him more as a friend than romantically. It’s important to be kind and clear about your feelings, but also honest about why you think it’s not working out

Mindfulness. · **Re: relationship advice??? -** March 28th 2025, 01:57 PM

Hello there,
It sounds like you are in a tough situation.
The best advice I can give you is to be honest as the longer the relationship continues, the harder it can be. Maybe sit down with him and speak to him about your thoughts or you can write a letter.

Em0bxy · **Re: relationship advice??? -** March 28th 2025, 02:11 PM

It just sucks because I can't reach out to him in any sort of way right now, so either way I'm stuck in an uncomfortable situation.