Triggering (Abuse): My boyfriend is abusive

[itzz.casper]

I been with my boyfriend Iassah for a few days now and he so abusive and idk why. He snapped as soon as he saw me light a cigarette. Then he became abusive mentally and psychically. I tried to dump him multiple times, Its always ¨Its over when I say its over¨. Im bout to go bonkers on him if he dont stop and when one of my best guy friends finds the bruises (My guy friend has been over protective of me and he always said if I get hurt by a boyfriend or a girlfriend he gonna take charge) I love Iassah but he cant abuse me I just dont know any advice PLEASE HELP.

[abbygarcia673]

who is he i will deal with it some one puts bruises of my best friend i think not

[Special Agent]

Hello-

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! You do not deserve to be abused! I know that you like this guy but if he is abusing you and saying things like "its over when I say its over" it might be time to say goodbye for good and if he does not get the point I would consider reaching out to your parents or the police as what he is doing to you is illegal. You deserve much better than him!

If you need anything please let me know

Take Care!

[Always *]

I'm so very sorry that this is happening to you. It's not ok. You deserve better!
if you've already tried to end it, and he's not "letting" you end it, I think you need to reach out for help. I understand the cycle; maybe he's apologized, promised to change, maybe even cried or been thoughtful for a few days and makes you remember why you liked him to begin with. Maybe that's not the precise cycle your stuck in, but if it's at all like you, then you doubly need help. You need help because he won't let you leave.

First, tell your parents or a guidance counsellor or another adult who you can trust and who can check on you and help you get out and stay safe.

Second, tell the police. A lot of abusive boyfriends become kind of stalker-ish or aggressive after a break up and I've heard it's possible in many places just to ring up a general line or walk into a police station to make a statement so that their appraised of what's going on. If you currently have any bruises, take pictures before making the statement. They might try to get you to press chargers, which is your choice, but if you don't want to I still think they need to know so that if it comes to the point where you need to call them or get a restraining order or something then you've already initiated things.

Please, please, please do this. Be safe. Get away.

[itzz.casper]

Thank you all for advice. I did so and now we are broken up (Thank God) THANK YOU ALL <<<<<<333333

[Always *]

I'm glad to hear you are finally broken up.
Please feel free to reach out if you need more help and please make sure you tell someone IRL if he's bothering you now that you've ended it, your safety (even if he's just verbally being a jerk) is the most important thing

[Coffee.]

That's amazing to hear, Casper! I'm glad you were able to break it off with him. Do you have a safety plan set up to prevent any future contact and to make sure you're safe in the future?

[itzz.casper]

No I dont. He hasnt been around since I broke it off with him....