dating and other stuff

[mattb2000]

Im 16 and ive never had a girlfriend. All of my friends either have one or have had one and they have all had blowjobs and handjobs except me. Im embarresed to tell anyone in case they slag me. Can someone tell me why i cant even get a girlfriend?

[Nightblood.]

First, don't worry about doing those things just to be like your friends. It'll happen when it happens. You don't have to talk to them about it if you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with not having a girlfriend in high school (or if you live somewhere with an equivalent) or college or ever, really. While you may really want to be in a relationship, you have plenty of time.

Second, the mindset of "I can't get a girlfriend" is honestly probably part of it. A girlfriend isn't something you "get" but rather someone you share interests with and have feelings for who also has feelings for you. You can't force it, or it probably won't end well.

[.Brittany.]

Finding your first girlfriend is always hard. You're still young and have lots of time to find the right girl. Don't rush into something just to have a girlfriend. Make sure it's someone who you truly like and that you'd be happy with them. Once you have one, don't rush into anything sexual. Make sure both you and the girl are ready. You don't want to rush into something just to fit in with the guys, then later regret it because you weren't ready, or it wasn't with someone special. Like I mentioned, you're still young.

Hey there,

It can be difficult when everyone around you is entering into relationships and you are struggling to find someone. I know I dealt with these feelings for quite some time. I think what you need to remember is that part of finding a relationship is building a friendship and sharing common interests with someone. If you are interested in getting into a relationship I would suggest that you start out talking to girls that you are interested in and building a relationship. Getting into a good relationship takes time and you have to work on putting yourself out there. It can be hard to initiate conversation with girls but it will be good practice and eventually you might build a strong enough relationship with someone to enter into a romantic relationship.

I think it's also important to note that you need to respect any girl you enter into a relationship. They are going to have boundaries regarding sex and in order to have a healthy relationship you need to respect those boundaries.

Best of luck.