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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months now. For the first five months we were great nothing really bad was happening everything was amazing we talked all the time we hung out when we could and we always opened up to one another. Now this past month she's kind of Idk become distant I guess. We had Christmas break and that was like 2 weeks and we went those two weeks without hanging out due to just not being able to and we always talked about how when we get to see each other again how of course she wanted to kiss me and me to hold her and all that but when we went back to school she completely changed. She wouldn't let me hug her or kiss her she wouldn't even let me hold her hand. Last Friday we went to a dance and she wouldn't even let me dance with her like she'd go to her best friend and dance with her but when I tried to dance with her she just seemed to ignore me. And she still won't let me touch her at all she doesn't seem like she loves me anymore and I don't want to break up with her but it feels like she is pushing me away and I've started to kind of fall into a depression over it. Any advice? Thank you.
Re: girlfriend issues -
January 23rd 2016, 02:29 PM
I think the best advice I could give you would be to talk to her about it. Let her know how it's making you feel, and how it's impacting you. Talk to her and make sure everything is okay with her.
Sometimes we all struggle to get back into our routine lives after the holidays are over. It's a time of year that really takes a lot out of us. We're usually around family, friends, more family, and more friends.
Maybe you could try calling her on the phone again, and just talking to her for the evening. Share your feelings and ask if she's troubled.
Make sure she knows you're concerned about her, and let her know it's impacting you too.
- Ron
Revenge is a poison meant for others that we end up swallowing ourselves.
Vengeance is a dark light that blinds all who seek it.
The untroubled soul knows there is no justice in revenge.
The untroubled soul knows that to seek vengeance, is to seek destruction.
Re: girlfriend issues -
January 24th 2016, 04:19 AM
I think the best step to take in this situation is to talk to her about what's going on. She's the only one who knows what she's feeling. You can speculate all you want, but I believe you'd feel a lot better with answers, and she's the only one who can provide them. So talk to her, let her know how you're feeling and that you're concerned. Ask her if there's anything you can do to be there for her. Let her know you care for her and support her. Hopefully she'll be able to open up to you if you come from a place of care and concern.
Re: girlfriend issues -
January 25th 2016, 02:30 PM
I agree with that was said above, just talk to her about it. You aren't going to know for sure what is going on until you do. Just keep your head high no matter the outcome! I'm always here if you need to talk.
"One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful." ~Sigmund Freud
Re: girlfriend issues -
January 25th 2016, 09:51 PM
Like everyone else has said, you need to talk to her. Relationships are built on communication. Try to do it in a non confrontational way. Ask her if she's ok, how she feels about the relationship, etc. Let her know that you're feeling upset about how the relationship has changed. It's possible she's pushing you away and that she wants to end it, but it's also possible that she's decided that she wants boundaries at school (not every one is comfortable with being affectionate in public). She may not even realise that you want more intimacy from her.
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