Triggering: So I been dating this girl....

[Nickylk]

I been dating this girl since the beginning of October and things were grate even tho after the first date I didn't suspect us to get closer.

We've been out to dinners and even watched movies together at my house, we even shared our first kiss together.

But the other day I wen't over to her house and mind you I am not skinniest, prettiest person but I kept glancing at her and thinking "Could I do better?" "Am I really attracted to her" - "Could I find a good looking guy who would like me back like she does?" - I'm 28, still a virgin and have never been in a serious relationship, I've had relationships before but never really courted and dated like I have been with her, so I'm having thoughts too of "I kinda want to be alone, I want to do my own thing and not worry about someone else"

And also when we first started talking we were talking about babies and I told her some day I want kids, well her reply was that she didn't want any. So I proceeded to ask her well would she want some in the future? And she said she can't predict the future but she doesn't know how she'll feel on the subject in a couple years but she doesn't want kids.

Are these normal feelings and thoughts? Should I cut ties with this girl or keep perusing something? Any advice?

[Thereishope]

You haven't really been with her that long so I would say this is normal. I would just keep going and see where it leads.

[Nickylk]

I know we haven't know each other that long

what I'm feeling doesn't feel normal and I all I can say I don't know. I don't know how I feel and I am very confused.

[Eternal]

It does sound like you're not that invested in the relationship, and it could be that you're just not attracted to her. Even if you haven't been together that long, over a month should be enough time to develop feelings and know that she is who you want to be with. Don't be afraid to consider breaking up if you're not excited about the relationship. You need to do what makes you happy, and if finding someone else would make you happier, then go for it. I've dated people who I decided I just didn't have strong feelings for and so I ended it, otherwise I figured I was just wasting both of our time.

[Nickylk]

We talked and decided that we aren't on the same page on things. But we are going to be good friends.