How long does one wait to start looking at dating other pople?
 

Hello.

I recently got out of a 11 month relationship that was long distance, and it ended on a good note, we are still very close friends. I was wondering how long you have to wait to get in another relationship? Just to not seem rude to the other person. She ended it off, just being she didn't have romantic feelings for me anymore. Though I am still close to her, I'd like to meet other people, at least look around. But I don't want to disrespect her. How long it is polite to wait?

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Re: How long does one wait to start looking at dating other pople?
 

There is no prerequisite time. You move on when you feel you are ready to move on. My only suggestion for people before they start looking for other partners is to make sure they are doing it out of a desire for a healthy, balanced relationship, not to stave off loneliness or "fill the void" or get back at your ex. It's important to be able to sit with yourself. I see so many people jump from relationship to relationship because they don't want to be alone and it's just not healthy. So turn inward and ask yourself what your reasons are for getting back out there. If you find the answer is to connect with new people, have enriching life experiences, etc., then by all means, move forward. If it's because you don't want to be alone or you feel that something is missing in your life, maybe take some time to yourself before moving forward.

As for your ex, you aren't responsible for her feelings. It's not up to you to make sure she feels "good" about you moving on. Seeing your partner move on can be difficult, but it's up to us to own our feelings.

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Hey there,

I don't think there is a certain time period which you have to wait. It's when you feel ready to start dating again.

Re: How long does one wait to start looking at dating other pople?
 

Hey there,

I think you need to move on when you're ready to do so. If you feel like you're ready to start meeting other people then that is absolutely fine. Maybe it would be a good idea to not be too public about it, but if your ex asks I'd be honest. Do what you feel is right for you, everyone needs to take their own time and do things when they feel ready to do so. Some people will wait weeks and some months or longer. If you feel ready to start dating again then that's great and you should do what makes you feel happy!

I wish you the best of luck,
Paige