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February 27th 2015, 04:46 PM
My new bf is cut. I've never dated a guy who was cut before so I am totally inept when it comes to hand jobs and blowjobs on a cut penis... Like with uncut the head is much more sensitive, and the foreskin moistens the head for hand jobs and but blow jobs are hard and kinda gross with an uncut guy but anytips for working with this cut penis? Thanks!
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 27th 2015, 06:39 PM
I mean, my boyfriend is cut. I've never dated somebody who wasn't. I don't think there's anything that different? He likes sex, blowjobs, and handjobs. I don't have to be extra sensitive or rough or anything to my knowledge. I'd communicate with him, and tell him the concern. I think you're worrying for nothing.
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 27th 2015, 08:45 PM
Thanks :3 he seems to like what I've done and blowjobs ate so much nicer on my end :3 I just think I might get a bottle of lube O.o
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 27th 2015, 10:13 PM
It's really not that different to pleasure a circumcised man versus an uncircumcised man. The techniques are the same, in my experience; no need to be afraid. When in doubt you can always ask your boyfriend what he likes, too.
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 27th 2015, 10:35 PM
Just to say - we can't really give you tips on here as it's a site for teenagers, but Google shoul be of some help!
Circumcision is extremely rare in my country and I don't know anyone who is 'cut' - but when I travelled to a different country last summer I got with someone who was and at first it was the weirdest thing ever and I didn't know what to do..... but really, it's not that different. Just do all the things you usually do! Saliva can offer a nifty little lubrication to the handjob end of things in times of trouble but I wouldn't say a whole bottle of lube is really needed - although it can feel very nice for him.
Anyway, in my experience when I'd been with this circumcised guy for a while I utterly forgot about it. You will too :P
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 28th 2015, 04:48 AM
Sorry as a 17 year old teenage girl I thot this was a safe place to ask how to not hurt my bf when I only want him to feel good :/
Hopefully things go better next time we try :3 thanks for the advice
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 28th 2015, 01:34 PM
Just to clarify, all bitesize was trying to say is that while we can advise you on things like communication and where to find further information, and provide reassurance from personal experiences, we can't give specific advice on sexual techniques. Breaches the Code of Conduct I'm afraid. We have members as young as 13 and some thing you just don't need to know about at 13.
Anyway, while I can't comment on this specifically I would echo what has been said about communicating with your boyfriend and preparing as you see fit - as long as you do both, it should work out fine. It's always a learning experience so don't worry if you get things wrong to start with, you'll get there in time.
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 28th 2015, 04:43 PM
i wasn't asking for technique... just like "get lube" or whatever :P but yeah i understand :3
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
February 28th 2015, 05:57 PM
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i wasn't asking for technique... just like "get lube" or whatever :P but yeah i understand :3
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Fair enough. We've been asked a few times before that's all! Hope everything works out for you.
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
March 3rd 2015, 06:10 AM
As the moderator for this particular forum, I can say that I provided the advice that I felt was necessary. Nothing was left out for appropriateness. If you were asking about anal sex, I'd say get some lube and I would give you advice about communication and positions that prevent pain. But being somebody with a cut partner, I can tell you I gave the advice I felt was appropriate, which is that it isn't that different, and that if he says anything, act then. My partner has never needed lube for handjobs, nor spit. I've never hurt him from overrubbing, and we've never had any sensation issues.
This is a safe space to ask about sex. The Code of Conduct states that there is no explicit descriptions of sex that is unnecessary for the advice needed/given. Translation: As long as it's not unnecessary details, it's completely fine! People often say the "no sex tips" rule, but that is completely false. We can give sex tips-we cannot give explicit details that is unnecessary. Besides, "communication" is the best sex tip anyway! Everything I've learned about having great sex has come from communicating with my partner.
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Re: my new boyfriend is cut! Help -
March 11th 2015, 01:07 AM
Sorry - my post wasn't meant to cause offence, it was just a reminder that Google might offer more, uh, detailed advice than we can give here! The others gave good answers and of course I fully agree that communication is definitely key - ask him what feels good for him and what he enjoys, or what he might find too sensitive. It's great that you've got his pleasure in mind. Best of luck!
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