Non-PG13 (Strong Language): My boyfriend and his stupid statuses on social media

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey guys,

I really don't know what to do. My boyfriend posts some inappropriate things on social media. Say for example he is watching the football and a particular player fouls another he will make some kind of racial comment. I've told him about it before and how much it bothers me and he still continues to do it. It makes him look like an idiot! It makes me look stupid. He's a grown man, he should know better. With my boyfriend it is more ignorance than racisim, but that's still no excuse. He's mother is very racist, I had an debate with her once she made some kind of comment about "foreigners" and I retailated by saying "Well if you want to be honest I'm a foreigner" and said that I'm british and not english and she didn't like that too much. Her stupidity and narrow-mindedness has rubbed off on him.
It's embarrassing to have people see those statuses, he has no thought whatsoever. My mum just saw it and made a comment about it, and you know what I don't blame her. I just find myself getting increasingly aggitated with this behaviour, what can I say or do to make him stop embarrassing me like this and making himself look like an uneducated dick.

Thanks guys.

[Celyn]

When people are set in their ways it can be really difficult to change that.

I think that talking about it and using yourself as an example, might help. However, it's up to your boyfriend whether or not he wants to listen and learn. Perhaps you could also remind him to be careful, in general, of what he posts online, as he may offend someone, get caught in trouble etc.

Even though you feel embarrassed about it, people shouldn't judge you based on your boyfriends actions, and if anyone does, you can just tell them that you don't support his behaviour.

[luckiicloverxx]

Hey there,

Well, as mentioned before, talking to him about it would be a good idea. However, you should be aware that he may not be willing to change. If he really does not see anything wrong with what he's doing, then he's probably not going to do anything about it.

But do remember to try and not mention his mother in your talk, because that might not go very well.