Suicidal Girlfriend

[reggie]

I'm not really sure where this is supposed to go because it covers a lot.
Iv'e been going out with a girl for a week now and asked a bit about her history as you do normally.
Her reply really upset me and I have no idea what to do...

"I don't know where to start really... I 'm a self harmer, I'm bulimic, I've been suicidal a few times... I lost a brother last year, my dad abused me for years as a child, my mum verbally abuses me still, I had a cancer scare... In short, I'm a fuck up at life"

"Oh yeah, and I was raped by my ex for 15 months... And I sound so casual about it but now you know just how much I'm hurting inside"

What am I supposed to do???

Originally Posted by reggie

"And I sound so casual about it but now you know just how much I'm hurting inside"

This right here stands out to me. It's not fair to heap all of that onto you upfront and expect you to sit with it or even help with it. Your job is not to fix this girl, and it sounds like she wants someone to fix her and make her life okay. The reality is that no one can help her heal the pain she is dealing with except her. At the very least I would encourage her to seek counseling from a professional, because she needs help that is impossible for you to provide without dragging yourself down in the process. If she refuses to get help, or makes excuses, or continues to lament how hard her life is and how much she hurts without taking any action to better her circumstances, then this cannot be a healthy relationship.