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Help! My boyfriend likes some other girl!

Hey. I'm panicked. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 3 months. And then we got this new girl, and everyone says she looks like ariana grande and demi lovato. And everyone likes her. AND ITS TRUE! Than my friend asked me and some other people "have you seen the new girl?" And my boyfriend, who is right infront of me, decides to say "ah yea! Shes hot!" I was surprised. And he was like "no she isnt! Whaat!?" And then walked away. I havent seen her, but i was beyond pissed. And then we walked passed her in the hallway. And then my boyfriend decides to yell, literally yell "SHES HOT!" I turned around and smacked him. Now what do i do? This girl is 10 times skinnier than me, she really does look like ariana grande, and has great teeth, while mine remain all lopsided. She wears this vanilla perfume, when all i depend on is my soap and deodorant. Im pretty sure this is going to happen again, and im pretty scared. My family is so poor, i cant afford the things she does! Help! HELP! I can't loose him! I really can't. Please help. I dont want to het in a fight with the girl. And i dont want to break up with him if he says it again. And i dont want to brush it off my shoulder. I can go on and on for days on how she is better than me. I just cant ok? I cant. Please help.

Re: Help! My boyfriend likes some other girl!

Hey there! I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through with your boyfriend. The best thing I can say is to sit him down and talk to him about how he's made you feel when he does this. Communication is the key to strengthen any relationship. Maybe he doesn't understand fully how you feel about it, and it's possible that maybe he's saying it just to get the attention of those that hear him. It's really hard to know why he's doing what he's doing unless you talk to him. I hope things go well!

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Exactly what michael said! :)

But as you said here

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This girl is 10 times skinnier than me, she really does look like ariana grande, and has great teeth, while mine remain all lopsided. She wears this vanilla perfume, when all i depend on is my soap and deodorant.

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i can go on and on for days on how she is better than me.

Now a key reminder here is that she isn't exactly better than you. Especially not in relationship terms, for my opinion at the least, relationship qualities such as Smell, Wealth, Attraction, is Minor importance to the Big qualities that are VERY important to the relationship

that being, Personality, Humour, Generosity, Kindness, Trustworthy, Caring, etc etc.

If your boyfriend would prefer this other girl because shes 'Hotter' than you, then your boyfriend is simply No good at all.

There's a fine line between Love and sexual attraction, Many teens mix the two up, and always say ' I love you ' but generally, they don't love You, they just love your Looks.

If you see what i'm getting at, If he would prefer this girl because shes Just 'hotter' then he is a fool and is not worth your time.

I mean fair enough, You think shes hotter than you, but you may be More Nicer, Friendlier, kinder, smarter, more trustworthy, funny, etc etc than she is.

Just remember, real love isn't about appearance.

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And i dont want to break up with him if he says it again. And i dont want to brush it off my shoulder

You do need to make a decision, for him to have the Cheek to Yell 'Shes Hot' right infront of you, then he doesn't have any respect for you or your feelings.

Me personally, i'd break up with him, just because the relationship is a short time and you've already learned alot of things about him, how he thinks Apperance is more important in a relationship, the lack of respect he has for his partner, etc.

However i suppose you could sit down and talk it to him, But from what i know, alot of people like this don't change their views on it, but you can give it a shot.

But, i'd still advise breaking up. Since it'd save you so much heart ache. But its your choice.

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There's no good way for you to approach the problem. I don't know if he finds her more attractive than you or not, the best you can do is try to become more attractive to him. I suggest you start with NOT BEING PHYSICALLY VIOLENT towards him. Sounds like a plan!?
Try dating him again if he still likes you? He probably can't have the really hot one, once he realises that he may be more receptive towards other women again.

Peace

Re: Help! My boyfriend likes some other girl!

I would talk to your boyfriend about it and let him know how you feel about it. He might not like at her at all and was just commenting that she is hot but either way, don't get into any physical fights with either this girl or your boyfriend or feel that you need to change who you are just because of how your boyfriend is behaving.

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Hi there!

I just want to point out that there's a difference between finding someone attractive and wanting to be in a relationship with them. Me and my boyfriend comment on attractive people we see all the time but that doesn't mean that one of us is going to leave the other to try and get with this person.

I think you're reading too much into this, he's in a relationship with you isn't he? Yes, he said this other girl was hot but has he given you any hints that he would leave you for her? From your post it sounds like he hasn't.

Try not to dwell on it too much because it will end up making your relationship suffer. If it really is affecting you a lot then I'd suggest just having a word with him and asking him not to say things like that in front of you as it hurts your feelings and makes you feel inadequate. If he cares about you then I'm sure he'll listen.

I hope this helps, take care :)

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I suggest you sit him down and talk it out. Don't start hitting him, violence is wrong and you don't know what his limits are.

Relationships, as others have said, is not about looks. It's about personality. Is this girl even trustworthy and faithful? You are, but he's looking at her and for all you know, she might have five boyfriends or girlfriends (or both), so you never really know. You can't judge a book by its cover, don't forget that!

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First off, don't panic! Just because he finds someone else attractive, doesn't mean he's going to run off with her. It's okay, while in a relationship, to find other people attractive as long as you don't act on it. It's not really nice that he shouted out that she was attractive though, so that's something you should talk to him about.

Let him know that how he has described her is upsetting you. There's no need for him to talk like that infront of you. Also, don't let yourself get upset about the differences in your appearances. Just because she's skinny and smells nice doesn't mean that's the type of person that he wants to be with. He's picked you out of all the other girls for a reason, he likes you for you.

Mainly, just let him know that you're a bit upset and talk it through. Good luck.