Non-PG13 (Strong Language): How can I hang out with my boyfriend?

[rebellionized]

My boyfriend and I go to different schools, so it's not like we can see each other every day. I have yet to meet his parents/guardians and vice versa. His grandma won't let me come and hang out, but according to him, his mom likes me. And his grandma won't let him come over to hang out. I've invited him to go to a little coffee shop downtown semi-close to his house, and he was still unable to go. The only way we get to see each other is at Ground Zero (a teen church type place where I live), which is only once a week for like an hour and a half on Wednesdays. It's way too cold to be going to parks and things like that. We haven't exactly discussed going to the mall yet, but I just want to know any other possible ways to spend time with each other, since his grandma wants to be so fucking picky..

[Eternal Dreamer ♥]

I'm not so good with family being picky to as where I go.
But have you tried or he tried to talk to her, see why? Maybe ask her where she would allow him to go? Its never easy, and I can see the fact you being 15 the fact of her being picky.

I suggest talking to her, see why, and maybe if she would be willing to pick a spot, even invite her if its just going for coffee, show that you both are responsible to do this alone

[rebellionized]

Like I said, I have yet to meet any of his parents/guardians. And whenever I ask him why his grandma won't let him do anything, he says it's because "she wants her grandson to be a good Christian boy." Like come on lady, he is 15 years old, he's going to want to go out with friends or significant others..

[PSY]

Who drops your boyfriend off at Ground Zero? There might be an opportunity to introduce yourself to his mother or grandmother when he's arriving or leaving.

Is he allowed to hang out with friends, male or female? If so, you might want to set up a group hangout. His grandmother might be under the impression that "something" will happen if he's hanging out one-on-one with a girl, but "nothing" will happen if he's surrounded by a number of Christian friends. I know it's not ideal, but it's better than nothing.

It sounds like his grandmother is the head of the household and makes the final decisions... or her adult daughter/your boyfriend's mother simply hasn't taken a strong enough stand in your favor. It may be a good idea to discuss the family dynamics further with your boyfriend (respectfully, of course). If you plan to be with him for a long period of time, then it's important to know how things work in his home. He may be able to encourage further discussion with his mother and grandmother, but if he isn't willing to "make waves" or further discussion isn't an option, then that's also good to know.

[rebellionized]

At Ground Zero, they rent vans to pick up kids according to the sides of town (the South van, which he takes), so there's that. But other than that, I can try to talk to him about the dynamics of his household.