How do I talk to my boyfriend about our break?

[ans_jws121512]

A few weeks ago, while I was on my vacation, my boyfriend texted me and told me he was moving to North Carolina and switching colleges a few days before he was supposed to leave which happened to be on our 8 months. When I asked him why he just said he was accepted and wouldn't give me any other answer. When he first told me he said he wanted to break up while he was gone, then he changed his mind and said we would stay together. The next morning I wake up to a text saying he wanted to go on a break while he was gone. While we were video chatting later the day I guess he could tell I was angry because he said something about this won't work if I'm mad at him the whole time. I'm not really sure what he meant by that, but it kinda made it worse and I shut the video chat off and that was the last time I heard from him.

While all of this was going on I had so many emotions at the same time and the one that came out the most was anger even though I was more hurt and sad than angry. Within a week I lost one of my dogs that I’ve had my whole life, I got kicked out of my school because of my grades, so I had to find a new one during my vacation, then this happened and it was all becoming too much.

The other day I was thinking about it and he's been talking about joining the military since we met, so I was thinking maybe that's why he left and just told me he was leaving for school so I wouldn't worry about him. I don't know for sure if that's what really happened or not.

I was trying to wait until I got back from my vacation to deal with this and now that I'm back I know I need to talk to him about everything. There's just so much I want to say to him, but I don't know how. How do I talk to him about all of this? I don’t even know if we’re together or not right now.

[CrusadingAvenger]

Ghee, I'm sorry to hear about your situation with your boyfriend. You're definitely right that you need to talk to him about everything because if you don't, you're not going to know what he really wanted to do. As for how you should talk to him about all of this, I would suggest talking to him in person if that's possible. If it isn't, maybe you can communicate with him through text or video chat. When you talk to him about everything that has happened between you and him, don't approach him all angry about it. Just be relaxed and just talk to him like you normally would with anyone. Now, if you don't know what to say, you can say something along the lines of "Alright, I know that we've had our fair shares of hardships here and there, but please, just be upfront and honest with me. When you said you wanted a break, was it only a temporary one, or did you just want to end our relationship? Please, tell me why you wanted to go on a break in the first place. I want to know if we're still together or not." After saying something like this, just be prepared for whatever response he will give you whether it'd be good or bad. I hope that this will all turn out for the better for you.