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Me and my boyfriend..

I need help. I have met this guy lately, and i really like him. He clearly likes me too. Anyways, not so long ago, him and i were making out, and it's normal for us to touch eachother and stuff. But this time he started to finger me, and it really hurt. I am scared it will hurt again, cause I really like this guy. This is the guy I would loose my virginity too. But I am really scared.. How do I either make it stop hurting, or how do I tell him I'm not ready? :'(

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Well lubricated? Used saliva as extra? Short, clean and nice finger nails?

Re: Me and my boyfriend..

As you said that you'd lose your virginity to him, meaning you haven't had sex which answers my question already, my next one is, and you don't have to answer but, do you masturbate? If you don't then it may be because your vaginal entrance is rather tight. Depending on how many fingers your boyfriend uses, how rough his skin is, how tight and wet you are, these things can affect how badly it can hurt.

The vaginal entrance expands when it's 'put into use' so to speak. The more you make it stretch and expand the more it widens. It can take time for it and it can hurt, this is because the entrance to your vagina is stretching. While you're alone, try masturbating and experimenting with yourself, this way you'll get to have a feel of 'down there' so you know how tight you are, how many fingers hurt and how many don't. Also bear in mind that male hands including their fingers are wider than females so a rough estimate would be around 3 fingers to make up for 2 of his.

If you're happy to have sex with him, bear in mind that again, if you're rather tight down there, sex will hurt and may cause bleeding because of the vaginal entrance stretching. This isn't to put you off, but so you know realistically what it's like. Depending on the girth of your boyfriend's penis, it can affect how much stretching will occur. This is why it may be better to try and experiment with masturbation before actual sex if you don't want sex to hurt.

You could talk to him about these issues so that he understands otherwise he'll keep on doing what he's doing thinking everything's fine when you know different.

Re: Me and my boyfriend..

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Originally Posted by saga1243 (Post 1053034)

I need help. I have met this guy lately, and i really like him. He clearly likes me too. Anyways, not so long ago, him and i were making out, and it's normal for us to touch eachother and stuff. But this time he started to finger me, and it really hurt. I am scared it will hurt again, cause I really like this guy. This is the guy I would loose my virginity too. But I am really scared.. How do I either make it stop hurting, or how do I tell him I'm not ready? :'(

when you say 'really like' does he excite you and make your panties wet? wet panties makes it easier to be fingered.

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I know you asked for female advice but as a guy im going to say this, I think your way to young to have sex, And he probaly only wants sex, Dont give it up so quick, Sex is not verything, And not to upset you bt it sounds more like lust

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoiSwag (Post 1057319)

Dude your obsessed xD u should chill, take a breath and go have some fun cuz I think youre in hard need and gealous. BUT its absolutely true that sex is not everything. But I now regret I have done nothing at 13-14 years old, seriously. It was really great time to do it, as long as its safe ofc.