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Need help for my girlfriend -
June 3rd 2013, 06:54 PM
My girlfriend (15 years old) has been abused all her life. She was sexually abused by her father as a young child (voyeurism, forcing her to sit on his lap, touched her private parts) and has also been beaten by him on many occasions. Just very recently, her dad was drunk at home, yelling at her mom. She came home from school and got in the middle of it. Her dad hit her all over, mostly the face. She has bruises all over. He then pinned her to the floor easily, since he is a very heavy man. He took off her clothes and took off his pants. He tied his belt around her wrists and sat on her legs, so she was completely immobile. He rubbed her breasts and her vagina, and was about to rape her. Luckily, a neighbor came to the door to ask what was going on (he didn't see anything) and that ended all the commotion. She has been completely traumatized by it lately and has been crying excessively. What are some options for help? Her mom doesn't do anything but watch because she's too scared to do anything.
Re: Need help for my girlfriend -
June 3rd 2013, 09:37 PM
Hello,
First of all, thank you for coming to us for help. I'm really glad that you want to help her, because right now it sounds like you're all she has right now.
I strongly recommend you contact authorities about this. Abuse is not right. You need to contact the police and report this. That's really the only legal way that you can stop this from happening to her any longer.
The other really important thing for you to do for her is be there for her and support her. When she's upset, be her shoulder to cry on. Give her a hug when she needs one. Just support her in any way possible. Don't pressure her to do anything, and don't pressure her to talk about it.
I wish you and her the best of luck. Please contact me whenever you need anything.
-MB
"One person can make a difference and everyone should try." Live Help Operator since June 1st, 2013