What do you think of age limit for dating?

[leogirl20]

do you agree with guys going with girls thats 5 years or 6 years younger than them? Maturity plays a big part. i can understand if the girls is much older than the guy or the girl is over the age of 19 years old and dating the guy….but what do you think the relationship is based on when guys go with girls much so many years younger..do you agree that they use them? most of them breakup with the girl out of the blue when things seemed to go well…when females are 18 majority of them i seen still have childs mind and become dependent on them…some even have moved into the family home of the guy. do you agree with the saying age aint nothing but a number? some guys have it known that the relationship isnt real but still females take it their way only…females at that young age suffocate guys when they move in too quickly…im just wanting to know what do you want from girls that so much younger than you are but it really dont last long? i know a guy who went with a girl for 3 months because all she spent was money and she tried to fit in his family playing the wifey roll but got dumped out of nowhere…do you agree that girls 5 or 6 years younger getting used (taken advantage of no matter what the situation is)?

[Eternal]

I don't think that it always doesn't work out, but I do agree that it's not a good situation to get into. It's common for one or both people to have the wrong intentions when getting into age gap relationships, however there have been cases where it did end up working out. It also depends on how old they are, if both are over 18 it isn't really that weird but if say, one is 14 and the other 19 then it's weird. 19 year olds usually don't want to date someone so young, so it's usually a red flag for me.

[Delicious Chaos]

I think it is possible to work out once the younger person is 18 or older. The older you get the more the age difference doesn't seem as much. If a 20 year old dates a 15 yr old it seems weird but if a 30 yr old dates a 25 yr old its possible to have a successful relationship. So I wouldn't say they ALL "take advantage" of girls because its too broad of a stereotype. Not all guys are like that. There are some good guys around too.

[theinfatuatedpanda]

Okay yeah I do find it weird when there is a difference of like, 5 years between the girl and the boy. Somehow, I feel they're just playing around (no offense that's just me).
However a difference of 2-3 years seems fine as I personally like guys older than me. There's a certain level of maturity in them that guys my age lack.
It all depends on the individuals though. Some people might hit it off with people much older while some prefer people their age/younger. I usually tend to follow my instincts when it comes to guys.
-M

[Always *]

Ok, for starters, for example, at 21 if I dated someone 5 years younger than me they'd be 16 and that would be really creepy. I think that is inappropriate because where a typical 16 year old is and where someone in their early 20's is tends to be very different. I think it depends though, like i'd have no problem dating someone who is 26. Maturity, where you are in your life and a whole bunch of other factors play in. I don't think you can just say anything over 5 years isn't appropriate but I always think it's a little creepy when someone who is 20-21 is dating someone who's like 17, i kind of wonder why they're still hanging around high school kids. But that's about the only way I can say for certain

[SouthernBelle.]

One must consider the example of Laura Ingalls and Almanzo Wilder. There were ten years between the two of them (she being sixteen and him twenty-six), and theirs was a good match. As I think I said in another thread, I have older relatives who had as many years between the husband and wife, and their marriages are some of the most loving that I know of.

Some of you might say it's old-fashioned to marry someone that much older than you are, and that those marriages worked out because that was the standard in those days; but I disagree. I think it's best for either both parties to be over twenty years of age, extraordinarily mature, or for the man to be at least five years older than the girl. My reason is that men usually mature much more slowly than women, and being older than their wives, it puts them on the same ground. It also makes them more apt to consider their girlfriends seriously, and marry them, rather than having sex with them and deciding they want whoever else comes scampering along directly after.

I don't only agree with larger age gaps; I advocate them. Take that as you will.

[Debaser]

I think between the ages of 13 and 19/20/21 can be pretty tempestuous, someone at University wants very different things to someone still at school or even working fulltime.
And moving intogether is a major deal whether you're 16 or 22 (i don't think i could move in with my partner and his family).

But then they're the whole deal of why would an 18 year old want to date a 14 year old (i've been that 14yr old) and i think it's for the naivity, the impressionability. I get that alot of the time older guys are more mature bladiblah, but why aren't they dating equally mature 18yr old women rather than girls?

I think into your mid to late twenties people want pretty similar things, whether that is to travel, work or have kids, it's along quite a domestic line.

Although occording to the law, a 16 yr old can have a (consensual) sexual relationship with a 54yr old and it'd be perfectly legal.

I know love has no boundaries ect. but if it was my children i think the later into life the more i'd agree with it.

[Tamsin96]

I personally (being a hopeless romantic) feel that age shouldn't matter in a relationship, so long as everyone is a willing participant. My friend is 16 and is dating a 22 year old, it was a bit weird at first, but they love rather so much! now, in this situation she its quite mature for 16, but I don't think th at really affects anything. Also my parents have a 10 year age difference and they have been happily married for over 20 years

[xxprincessxx]

I don't think age limits matter as much whenever you are a mature adult. When you're an adolescent your brain is still developing so a 14 year dating somebody over 18 isn't okay. But once your mature, I think it's more acceptable. Though I still wouldn't date anybody 5 years older than me, nor would I date anybody more than 2 years younger.

[MermaidMassacre]

I'm just going to put it this way. Depends on the person and their maturity along with state/country laws on age. If she is 12 dating an 18 year old we're gunna have a problem. If they are 16 [age of consent at least in MN] and dating a 22 year old there is potential it could work out. But once you are older, then around the age of 18 it typically doesn't matter all that much. Considering my boyfriend is 5 years older than me it hardly seems like a huge age difference.

I think it largely depends on the ages and maturity of the people involved. A 19-year-old dating a 14-year-old is highly inappropriate, not to mention illegal. However, a 23-year-old dating an 18-year-old can work quite nicely, depending on the people involved. I'm 22 and both my boyfriends are thirty, and it works out marvelously. It just depends on the people.