Addicted to making fake online dating profiles?

[littlemissliar]

I'm 14 and I have a problem with making fake profiles on dating sites. I've made about 25 fake accounts so far. The bad thing about it is that when I meet someone I like I end up wanting to date them in real life but I can't because I'm not who I say I am and I'm too young. I only like guys who are 17+ because I don't find guys my age to be attractive or mature enough. How can I stop doing this? What is wrong with me!?

[|Courtney|]

well you noticing your doing something wrong is a good start. Now you should probably go back and delete those fake accounts. Being 14 and wanting to be with a guy thats 17+ sounds like something could go wrong or something. So be careful with that. Your a mature for your age it doesn't mean theres no guys your age that are not mature.. never know... But I hope things become better of you and you try to make things work. Take care(:

[Spicy_]

You seem to be very mature; however like Courtney has said I would also advise you to delete those accounts, although nothing has really happened now, down the line there maybe a time where possibly you decide to meet one of them things may go wrong as well as lying about your age may get you in authoritative trouble.

To stop this I would recommend possibly installing a internet filter (you can find free ones online) to filter out dating sites. A good way to do this is to have a friend make the account information for you (Username, Password..etc) and promise not to tell you. That way you wouldn't have a way around the filter and without being able to go on it you can naturally stop.

Through all though I would like to tell you that is there is nothing wrong with liking older men; more and more women today are doing the same; just be sure to be really careful when doing this as some guys may taken advantage of you being so young. With meeting them; I wouldn't really recommend dating sites or online services, not only are you too young for most of them; lotts of creeps are online now days esp on dating sites; instead I would recommend your local library or park (during the day) its the locations for many older men as well as many of them they're are more mature than others

[Moxie.]

The fact that you've realized that something isn't right is already a huge step in the right direction. The first thing you need to do is take those profiles down. I know there's something kind of exciting about the prospect of meeting someone online, but it honestly won't do you much good in the end, especially being underage. Although nothing has happened so far, things could go badly in the future. For example, you could choose to meet one of them, which could be problematic. You could also get your heart broken, so nothing could happen between you and an older man without breaking laws. Of course, you can always put one or two profiles back up when you're of a legal age to see what happens. But, for now, taking them all down is your best option.

You might also want to consider downloading some sort of Internet filter. There are many free ones online - just make sure you research it before you download it. Doing so will allow you to choose what types of websites you can access on the Internet and what kinds are prohibited. You could always have a friend or family member set up the account for you, as other users have said. However, if you're not comfortable with having no control over the filter, look for one with an option to include an accountability person. Some filters will allow you to choose someone who will be emailed if you use the password to access a website set to be blocked by the filter. Either way, having someone else who knows and will keep an eye on your Internet use is a great idea. It's much harder to stumble when you're held accountable to someone.