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How to Begin Dating - May 16th 2012, 03:19 AM

How to Begin Dating
By Barbara (Unbreakable♥)

When you’re looking to date someone, there are tons of articles and stories about how to talk to your crush or how to ask someone out. What you don’t see very often, is what to do before all of that.

Meeting other people
When you’re first looking to date, you have to meet people in order to see what type of people you’re attracted to or not attracted to. You might care about looks, personalities, beliefs, or basically anything that makes a person unique different from others. The thing a lot of people don’t realize is that you can meet girls or guys anywhere. This includes: school, stores, church, movies, social groups, etc. Another great way to meet other people is through mutual friends. You could have some of your friends pull you out of your comfort zone and make you hang out with people you typically wouldn’t hang out with.

Not looking for dates right away, but friends
Most times, it’s best to be friends with the people you’re possibly interested in to begin with. This way you get to know them well enough to realize whether they’re someone you want to try dating or not. A lot of times, people get in relationships with someone they’re physically attracted to, but don’t know their partner’s personality well and they start dating. When they finally get to know the person better, sometimes they realize they don’t like the person as much as they originally thought. Really, it’s best not to think of every person as a possible date, but much rather as a possible friend. Besides you getting to know them, they have a chance to know you as well. Another plus: even if you don’t end up dating them, you meet some awesome friends in the process.

Friend-zoned
If there happens to be that one person you already like, but you don’t want to be friend-zoned, be clear that you’re interested in more. Maybe flirt more than if it was just a friend, ask them out, etc. This can apply to someone you’ve known for a while and you’re just now interested in as well. It’s possible to get out of the friend-zone if you think that’s where you are already. As stated above, it’s usually best to be friends with the person first, so this is how you can take it to the next level if you want.

Don’t become someone you’re not
The title says it all: don’t become someone you’re not. Don't go trying to change yourself such as wearing different clothes, or lying about what your interests are. Have them get to know the real you & have them like you for you, not someone you're pretending to be. It may sound a bit cliché, but really, just be yourself. If they’re not interested, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. It just means they’re not the person for you.

Basically, just be yourself, have fun, and don’t think too much into it. If it’s mean to be, it will eventually be. It doesn’t take as much thinking or planning as some people make it sound. Sure, you can ask for advice or read articles such as this one on how to start dating, but there’s only so much you can learn secondhand. Most of it will just play out.
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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 1st 2012, 03:31 AM

Well no one has said anything on this. I'm just wondering if maybe it's not good enough to be used?
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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 1st 2012, 07:24 AM

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Well no one has said anything on this. I'm just wondering if maybe it's not good enough to be used?
If I thought that, I'd at least have had the decency to tell you.

It's a good article; we've just been working on some other ones. If this one isn't published this month, we'll definitely aim for next month.

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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 1st 2012, 07:44 AM

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If I thought that, I'd at least have had the decency to tell you.

It's a good article; we've just been working on some other ones. If this one isn't published this month, we'll definitely aim for next month.

Sorry to keep you waiting.
No problem! I just noticed there wasn't any comments, so I was just making sure I shouldn't be trying to add on to it or something Thank you!
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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 3rd 2012, 09:19 AM

How to Begin Dating
By Barbara (Unbreakable♥)

When you’re looking to date someone, there are tons of articles and stories about how to talk to your crush or how to ask someone out. What you don’t see very often, is what to do before all of that.

Meeting other people
When you’re first looking to date, you have to meet people in order to see what type of people you’re attracted to or not attracted to. You might care about looks, personalities, beliefs, or basically anything that makes a person unique different from others. The thing a lot of people don’t realize is that you can meet girls or guys anywhere. This includes: school, stores, church, movies, social groups, etc and so on. Another great way to meet other people is through mutual friends. You could have some of your friends pull you out of your comfort zone and make you hang out with people you typically wouldn’t hang out with.

Not looking for dates right away, but friends
Most times, it’s best to be friends with the people you’re possibly interested in to begin with. This way, you get to know them well enough to realize whether they’re someone you want to try dating or not. A lot of times, people get in relationships with someone they’re physically attracted to, but don’t know their partner’s personality well and when they start dating. When they finally get to know the person better, sometimes they realize they don’t like the person as much as they originally thought. Really, It’s best not to think of every person as a possible date, but much rather as a possible friend. Besides you getting to know them, they have a chance to know you as well. Another plus: Even if you don’t end up dating them, you will meet some awesome friends in the process.

Friend-zoned
If there happens to be that one person you already like, but you don’t want to be friend-zoned, be clear that you’re interested in more. Maybe flirt more than if it was just a friend, ask them out, etc and so on. This can apply to someone you’ve known for a while and you’re just now interested in as well. It’s possible to get out of the friend-zone if you think that’s where you are already. As stated above, it’s usually best to be friends with the person first, so this is how you can take it to the next level if you want.

Don’t become someone you’re not
The title says it all: don’t become someone you’re not. Don't go trying to change yourself such as wearing different clothes, or lying about what your interests are. Have them get to know the real you & and have them like you for you, not someone you're pretending to be. It may sound a bit cliché, but really, just be yourself. If they’re not interested, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. It just means they’re not the person for you.

Basically, just be yourself, have fun, and don’t think too much into about it. If it’s meant to be, it will eventually be. It doesn’t take as much thinking or planning as some people make it sound out to be. Sure, you can ask for advice or read articles such as this one on how to start dating, but there’s only so much you can learn secondhand. Most of it will just play out.





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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 3rd 2012, 09:18 PM

How to Begin Dating
By Barbara (Unbreakable♥)

When you’re looking to date someone, there are tons of articles and stories about how to talk to your crush or how to ask someone out. What you don’t see very often, is what to do before all of that.

Meeting other people
When you’re first looking to date, you have to meet people in order to see what type of people you’re attracted to or not attracted to. You might care about looks, personalities, beliefs, or basically anything that makes a person different from others. The thing a lot of people don’t realize is that you can meet girls or guys anywhere. This includes school, stores, church, movies, social groups, and so on. Another great way to meet people is through mutual friends. You could have some of your friends pull you out of your comfort zone and make you hang out with people you typically wouldn’t hang out with.

Not looking for dates right away, but friends
Most times, it’s best to be friends with the people you’re possibly interested in to begin with. This way, you get to know them well enough to realize whether they’re someone you want to try dating or not. A lot of times, people get in relationships with someone they’re physically attracted to, but don’t know their partner’s personality well when they start dating. When they finally get to know the person better, sometimes they realize they don’t like the person as much as they originally thought. It’s best not to think of every person as a possible date, but rather as a possible friend. Besides getting to know them, they have a chance to know you as well. Even if you don’t end up dating them, you will meet some awesome friends in the process.

Friend-zoned
If there happens to be that one person you already like, but you don’t want to be friend-zoned, be clear that you’re interested in more. Maybe flirt more than if it was just a friend, ask them out, and so on. This can apply to someone you’ve known for a while and you’re just now interested in as well. It’s possible to get out of the friend-zone if you think that’s where you are already. As stated above, it’s usually best to be friends with the person first, so this is how you can take it to the next level.

Don’t become someone you’re not
The title says it all: don’t become someone you’re not. Don't go trying to change yourself such as wearing different clothes, or lying about what your interests are. Have them get to know the real you and have them like you for you, not someone you're pretending to be. It may sound a bit cliché, butjust be yourself. If they’re not interested, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. It just means they’re not the person for you.

Basically, just be yourself, have fun, and don’t think too much about it. If it’s meant to be, it will eventually be. It doesn’t take as much thinking or planning as some people make it out to be. Sure, you can ask for advice or read articles such as this one on how to start dating, but there’s only so much you can learn secondhand. Most of it will just play out.
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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 13th 2012, 06:10 AM

Robin took care of most errors, but I found one more error and I have one more suggestion. Sorry for the late look at it Barbara! I really like the article, btw.

How to Begin Dating
By Barbara (Unbreakable♥)

When you’re looking to date someone, there are tons of articles and stories about how to talk to your crush or how to ask someone out. What you don’t see very often, is what to do before all of that.

Meeting other people
When you’re first looking to date, you have to meet people in order to see what type of people you’re attracted to or not attracted to. You might care about looks, personalities, beliefs, or basically anything that makes a person different from others. The thing a lot of people don’t realize is that you can meet girls or guys (This is not gender inclusive. I would recommend “new people” instead, or something along those lines) anywhere. This includes school, stores, church, movies, social groups, and so on. Another great way to meet people is through mutual friends. You could have some of your friends pull you out of your comfort zone and make you hang out with people you typically wouldn’t hang out with.

Not looking for dates right away, but friends
Most times, it’s best to be friends with the people you’re possibly interested in to begin with. This way, you get to know them well enough to realize whether they’re someone you want to try dating or not. A lot of times, people get in relationships with someone they’re physically attracted to, but don’t know their partner’s personality well when they start dating. When they finally get to know the person better, sometimes they realize they don’t like the person as much as they originally thought. It’s best not to think of every person as a possible date, but rather as a possible friend. Besides getting to know them, they have a chance to know you as well. Even if you don’t end up dating them, you will meet some awesome friends in the process.

Friend-zoned
If there happens to be that one person you already like, but you don’t want to be friend-zoned, be clear that you’re interested in more. Maybe flirt more than if it was just a friend, ask them out, and so on. This can apply to someone you’ve known for a while and you’re just now interested in as well. It’s possible to get out of the friend-zone if you think that’s where you are already. As stated above, it’s usually best to be friends with the person first, so this is how you can take it to the next level.

Don’t become someone you’re not
The title says it all: don’t become someone you’re not. Don't go trying to change yourself such as wearing different clothes, or lying about what your interests are. Have them get to know the real you and have them like you for you, not someone you're pretending to be. It may sound a bit cliché, but just be yourself. If they’re not interested, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. It just means they’re not the person for you.

Basically, just be yourself, have fun, and don’t think too much about it. If it’s meant to be, it will eventually be. It doesn’t take as much thinking or planning as some people make it out to be. Sure, you can ask for advice or read articles such as this one on how to start dating, but there’s only so much you can learn secondhand. Most of it will just play out.


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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 13th 2012, 09:18 AM

No problem! & Thanks for catching that Any other suggestions or edits?

How to Begin Dating
By Barbara (Unbreakable♥)

When you’re looking to date someone, there are tons of articles and stories about how to talk to your crush or how to ask someone out. What you don’t see very often, is what to do before all of that.

Meeting other people
When you’re first looking to date, you have to meet people in order to see what type of people you’re attracted to or not attracted to. You might care about looks, personalities, beliefs, or basically anything that makes a person different from others. The thing a lot of people don’t realize is that you can meet new people anywhere. This includes school, stores, church, movies, social groups, and so on. Another great way to meet people is through mutual friends. You could have some of your friends pull you out of your comfort zone and make you hang out with people you typically wouldn’t hang out with.

Not looking for dates right away, but friends
Most times, it’s best to be friends with the people you’re possibly interested in to begin with. This way, you get to know them well enough to realize whether they’re someone you want to try dating or not. A lot of times, people get in relationships with someone they’re physically attracted to, but don’t know their partner’s personality well when they start dating. When they finally get to know the person better, sometimes they realize they don’t like the person as much as they originally thought. It’s best not to think of every person as a possible date, but rather as a possible friend. Besides getting to know them, they have a chance to know you as well. Even if you don’t end up dating them, you will meet some awesome friends in the process.

Friend-zoned
If there happens to be that one person you already like, but you don’t want to be friend-zoned, be clear that you’re interested in more. Maybe flirt more than if it was just a friend, ask them out, and so on. This can apply to someone you’ve known for a while and you’re just now interested in as well. It’s possible to get out of the friend-zone if you think that’s where you are already. As stated above, it’s usually best to be friends with the person first, so this is how you can take it to the next level.

Don’t become someone you’re not
The title says it all: don’t become someone you’re not. Don't go trying to change yourself such as wearing different clothes, or lying about what your interests are. Have them get to know the real you and have them like you for you, not someone you're pretending to be. It may sound a bit cliché, butbe yourself. If they’re not interested, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. It just means they’re not the person for you.

Basically, just be yourself, have fun, and don’t think too much about it. If it’s meant to be, it will eventually be. It doesn’t take as much thinking or planning as some people make it out to be. Sure, you can ask for advice or read articles such as this one on how to start dating, but there’s only so much you can learn secondhand. Most of it will just play out.
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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 30th 2012, 11:51 AM

This seems to be the final edit then. It seems to be a pretty short article, but in this case I think it works since it's direct and to the point.

How to begin dating
By Barbara (Unbreakable♥)

When you’re looking to date someone there are tons of articles and stories about how to talk to your crush or how to ask someone out. What you don’t see very often is what to do before all of that.

Meeting other people
When you’re first looking to date you have to meet people in order to see what type of person you’re attracted to or not attracted to. You might care about looks, personality, beliefs, or basically anything that makes a person different from others. The thing a lot of people don’t realize is that you can meet new people anywhere. This includes school, stores, church, movies, social groups, and so on. Another great way to meet people is through mutual friends. You could have some of your friends pull you out of your comfort zone and make you hang out with people you typically wouldn’t hang out with.

Not looking for dates right away, but friends
Most times, it’s best to be friends with the people you’re possibly interested in to begin with. This way you get to know them well enough to realize whether or not they’re someone you want to try dating. A lot of the time people get into a relationship with someone they’re physically attracted to, but don’t know their partner’s personality well when they start dating. When they finally get to know the person better they might realize they don’t like the person as much as they originally thought. It’s best not to think of every person as a possible date, but rather as a possible friend. Besides getting to know them, they have a chance to know you as well. Even if you don’t end up dating them, you will meet some awesome friends in the process.

Friend-zoned
If there happens to be that one person you already like, but you don’t want to be friend-zoned, be clear that you’re interested in more. Maybe flirt more than if it was just a friend, ask them out, and so on. This can apply to someone you’ve known for a while and you’re just now interested in as well. It’s possible to get out of the friend-zone if you think that’s where you are already. As stated above, it’s usually best to be friends with the person first, so this is how you can take it to the next level.

Don’t become someone you’re not
The title says it all: don’t become someone you’re not. Don't go trying to change yourself such as wearing different clothes, or lying about what your interests are. Have them get to know the real you and have them like you for you, not someone you're pretending to be. It may sound a bit cliché, but be yourself. If they’re not interested, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you, it just means they’re not the person for you.

Basically, just be yourself, have fun, and don’t think too much about it. If it’s meant to be, it will eventually be. It doesn’t take as much thinking or planning as some people make it out to be. Sure, you can ask for advice or read articles such as this one on how to start dating, but there’s only so much you can learn secondhand. Most of it will just play out.


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Re: How to Begin Dating - June 30th 2012, 09:19 PM

If you're okay with length, great. If not, I can add onto it. Just let me know.
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Re: How to Begin Dating - July 8th 2012, 11:04 PM

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