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Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 03:03 AM
Okay so she says she has never had one which I believe. I was her first. So I've been trying to give her one with fingering and oral but i cant! She has this thing where when I touch her clit, her leg twitches. Normally she can handle it but when she gets kinda close to finally orgasming, it gets really bad and she cant handle the twitching anymotr. So what should i do?!
Re: Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 03:11 AM
Generally speaking, the leg twitching means you're getting her closer to an orgasm. If she's comfortable, power through the leg twitching and hopefully succeed in an orgasm.
Re: Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 03:18 AM
Yes, I used to do that as well. It's hard to overcome that feeling- of being overwhelmed. It's too easy to stop and back off and not go through. It just takes work and well, sexual frustration to work through it.
Re: Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 05:42 AM
Leg twitching is a good thing. Maybe your girlfriend doesn't know this!
However, something the above poster didn't mention, a lot of woman CAN'T orgasm through intercourse or manual stimulation alone. And some just can't orgasm at all. Not to burst your bubble, but it's true. Only a certain percentage (and I'm not sure what the percentage is currently) can orgasm through intercourse or manual stimulation alone. Some just need more of a push to get to that point. It might happen for her, it might not. Rest assured that it's neither your fault or hers if it doesn't happen. It's just one of the crappy parts of being a female.
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Re: Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 06:17 PM
I know it's frustrating, but I think the best thing is to just let it happen. Also, make sure that you don't make her feel pressured to have an orgasm ~ that doesn't help the situation!!
You could try switching it up and doing lots of things, but try and put the focus on her feeling good, not necessarily her climaxing. My first orgasm came as a total surprise when my boyfriend at the time had been trying to make it happen for eight months ~ and it was through neither fingering, oral, or sex.
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Re: Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 07:57 PM
You could always try different ways to try giving her an orgasm, maybe just try having fun instead of both of you focusing on making her orgasm, if you take the pressure of the need to make her orgasm and focus on just having fun and enjoy yourself, you might find it happens.
Re: Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 09:06 PM
She's never had an orgasm at all? She might want to experiment by herself first. Once she gets to know what feels best for her, she can show you how to do it the way she likes.
Re: Really want my girlfriend to orgasm -
May 3rd 2012, 09:51 PM
Even though her legs are twitching, her clit may get more sensitive as she gets closer. Personally, even when my partner 'powers through' the fact that my legs twitch, I can only handle specific types of contact there. It's sometimes gets uncomfortable depending on how my partner is doing whatever he/she is doing. Ask her about that. It's important to rule out different things.
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