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help!?
Okay, i don't know what the hell I am in terms of my gender. I know I like boys, that's all I know about myself. I used to play with trucks and cars when I was younger and attempt to dress masculine even when people forced me to dress feminine. I used to fear getting boobs. Now, as a pubisent 12 year old I'm confused. my boyfriend refuses to let me be trans(I'm in the mits of breaking up with him right now), my crush is also a trans guy. I think i'm trans femboy??? I don't know. I like being feminine but I can't stand having boobs and shit. Idk what's going onnnnnn!!!HELP.

Hey there,

Figuring out your gender identity can definitely be confusing. The good news is you don't need to have it all figured out right away!

Perhaps you can try experimenting with different pronouns and presentations to see what feels most affirming to you. It's also important to remember that your presentation doesn't have to match the stereotypes of the pronouns that you choose. If you've already determined that he/him pronouns feel most affirming to you, that doesn't mean you have to dress in typically masculine ways. You can still wear feminine clothing, do your makeup, and anything else that you enjoy. It's all up to what feels best to you.

I'm glad to hear you're in the process of breaking up with your boyfriend, as it doesn't sound like he's very supportive. Having people in your corner that will support you as you figure out your gender identity is so important! Whether that's friends, your new crush, or family members, knowing that you're supported and celebrated for being who you are can make a huge difference.

Take care,
Sam

oh I have this too! I don't want to dress feminine unless I have a male body, if yk what I mean? For me (right now), agender/transmasculine femboy is the best label I've found but tbh I've given up on labels since I can't find any that completely match what I feel :nosweat:. I hope you figure it out soon (good luck)!