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Trying to define who I am

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]So, right now, everyone knows me as being Bisexual, but I'm not sure about that label anymore.

To explain, I was just in a heterosexual relationship. There was intimacy, but (and I apologise cause it's gonna get a little personal here) I don't really like sex like that. The whole, insert Slot A into Tab B sorta thing, the rest of it (kissing, making out, oral stuffs, etc...) was fine and enjoyable, the whole penetrative aspect was just not doing anything for me other than pain (emotional and physical). So, my thought was well maybe I am just attracted to girls like that. But, I still like guys romantically.

So, to sum this all up. Is there a label for someone who is romantically attracted to guys, gals, and non-binary pals, but only likes women (and maybe non-binary people) sexually?
And I know I shouldn't try to define myself by labels but I kinda like being able to have a group of people who are like me. Who are maybe sexually attracted to women but romantically like men too.[/size][/color][/font]

Re: Trying to define who I am

Hello, thank you so much for coming on and telling us about what you have been going through and I'm sorry that you are having a hard time with this and hope that you will be okay soon.

When I see someone who is a guy and they are with another guy or a girl with another girl or a girl with a boy, I never put a label on them. To me, I believe that you should always be yourself and you like who you like. We are all different people and it is totally fine to like who you like. So I do not label people, whoever you are or who you are in a relationship with, as long as you are happy then that is what matters.

If you want to figure out who you like, one way that you can do this is, ask some guys and girls out and then when you get home you can make a pro and con list. What did you like about them and not like? What did you see in them that makes them cute? Some people it is the eyes or face or the amazing body or something else that you are into. Also if it takes a little bit of time to figure out who you like, try not to get upset or come down on yourself. Nothing is wrong with you. Everyone is going to find true love, that person is around. They are going to find you or you will find them on day. Just give it some time. I wish you the best with this and hope that you will be okay soon. Thank you for coming on.

Re: Trying to define who I am

There's actually both a sexuality and romantic spectrum. If you are going to label yourself it sounds like the correct way would be panromantic and homosexual.