Non-PG13: A Question For Other Trans People.

[George^^]

Anyways, my question comes after this (If I offend anyone I'm sorry):

Recently I've been noticing that I have zero interest in sex at my current body state (As in, having female body parts), but if I imagine (-see myself after transitioning somewhat) myself as a man (with as close corresponding body parts to match my gender identity), I'm more interested in sex and having relationships. - I cannot imagine, nor want, a relationship with anyone while viewed as a girl (the idea completely bothers me so much that I try not to think about it at all.)

So I was wondering if anyone else feels that way, not interested in having sex (or a girlfriend/boyfriend and being intimite with them) in some ways?

I just kind of want to know if I'm not the only one who feels this way or not...

[BoyGirlOther]

I don't think I am really classifyable as trans, but I have some dislike of my biological gender and wish to be the other a lot- and I feel quite the same. I have no desire for intamacy past hugging and cuddling. Im not sure if thats a romance, sexuality or identity thing though.

Long babbly story short, I feel the same in terms of not wanting intimacy and I do think it would change if some physical aspects of myself were changed

[George^^]

Hi Sam, thanks for commenting, It's nice to know that I'm not the only one with the whole unenterested thing.

[BoyGirlOther]

Its never nice to feel alone on the subject. Again I'm not sure if what I'm thinking is the same, but they seem like similar things.
You aren't ever, and dont have to be, alone in this sort of thing.

[George^^]

Thanks, it's just I only know one other non-cisgendered person (personally) other than myself, and we don't talk enough, and I only know one other trans person whose from my territory (and that's through her being angry at our government for basically leaving her stranded, in the middle of SRS, without any more money.)

They're probably similar things, just felt differently. I agree with being okay with cuddling and hugging, but moving any father than that I feel weird, like I don't want it and it doesn't turn me on or anything (as embarrassing as that was to write, needed to write it...) but it's different if I did have some of my physical aspects changed (just stealing that term, because it fits...)

[Jaguar]

I don't see how your question could offend anyone, but I can't help but wonder is your lack of feeling is because of a lack of acceptance of your body as the biological sex you are. I can imagine the difficulty of being a person of one sex in the body of another, but you are what you are physically and you're a valuable human that way.

[Just some random thought: I've never liked the idea of sex-change surgery. I've never talked to anyone who had it about it, even though I know one. To me it just seems like mutilation and may have something to do with anger at being born the wrong sex.]

[George^^]

I added that in case I did, because I've said and done a bunch of things that seemed okay to me, but offended someone else (Maybe I'm just sensative about that because that's what's happening in my life right now, some people saying stuff but not understanding that it's offensive to some people, so I'm being careful.)

I do know that I'm valuable that way, and thanks for saying that. Maybe it is the whole "wrong sex" thing, or it's the total childish idea of sex being like, gross.

I don't consider it mutilation, but maybe it's because for myself, I'm basically just considering a reverse boob job (instead of adding, I'm taking away). In my own opinion, mutilation is more like losing an arm or a leg (or toes, feet, hands...), where as SRS is just taking away what shouldn't be, that is. And in some cases, giving what should be, that isn't.

[Jaguar]

Well, if you take away the hormones and the sex drive, sex is gross. It's gooey and smelly. And it also involves weird motions, heavy breathing and sweat. Think about it!

[George^^]

I just love how I was in the middle of eating a cracker when I read that, making me lose my appetite just after reading it.... I still have the hormones for it (none of the drive...) nor the other person to partake...

[Jaguar]

Yeah, but with the hormones and the sex drive, and loving the other person, it's wonderful.

Gooey and smelly and weird noises and sweat notwithstanding.

[VeggieLoaf]

Hey George. A lot of transmen feel pretty unsexual with female parts. However, if you start taking testosterone, that feeling goes away pretty fast. "T" will make your sex drive go through the sexy-time roof. Also, it can make what were previously alien parts of yourself seem more normal and comfortable. So maybe you won't pick up that interest, but hormones might give you a little boost. It's actually something I'm not really looking forward to in hormone treatment. But I'll deal with it for the facial hair n_n

Much Love,
Veggie

[George^^]

Thanks VeggieLoaf. Despite my slight worry of how un-sexed I am (probably from the fact that today sex is over done as something that everyone is suppose to want, unless your like, really young or really old.) - I'm not intirely sure if I want to take T, but it is something that I am really thinking about (mostly because as much as it has the pros of having a deeper voice, looking more male, no more periods, I also need to worry about some of the other things that do happen... I also really don't want to go bald.)

[Anala]

Question on top of a question:

Is this considered asexuality? In one gender?
Is that typical for transgender people? Can you be asexual and sexual at the same time, just in different genders?
Maybe?

[George^^]

Maybe, that's kind of how I think of it in some ways, but I was afraid to like, classify it as so because I didn't want to explain it in a way that it could not be the like right way to. - I don't know if this is typical, because I haven't other than this question looked into it, but I probably should (but didn't think of that until this question)