I am sooooo scared that I'm pregnant

Me and my boyfriend have done oral and mutual masturbation, and I'm afraid I might be pregnant without actually having sex. I am tired alot lately and I have been spotting the past four days. I took a pregnancy test two weeks after I thought I might have concieved and it was negative and a week later I got my period but what's with the spotting and everything? I can't concentrate in school and I can't talk to my counselor about this because she'll tell my mom and I'm too embarassed helppp mee I don't know what to do

When I get anxious I start subconsiously picking at my skin and now I have long scabs all over my arms from all of this