I'm pregnant and he left.

[kisskiss11]

So.. I'm 11 wks pregnant..

Me and the father had only dated for three weeks when I got pregnant. I didn't know I was and he just disappeared one day. When I found out and it got back around to him through his friends, he showed back up and we got back together and tried to make it work, but he plain just doesn't feel that way about me.
Anyway..
he moved a state away, said he wasn't coming back. Said he wanted to "start his life over"...

I'm freaked out, scared to death, and completely heartbroken...
.....what do I do? .... he just ... left.

[AllyCat.x]

You need to think about what's best for the baby. If he doesn't want to be in your baby's life, forcing him will only make it worse. He might change his mind and come back one day, but until then you should keep your hopes up and try not to stress too much about it.
As for the heartbrokenness, try surrounding yourself with friends and family. Make yourself happy! Have a girls day out, just have fun! And good luck

Best of wishes!

[Nicolette]

Do you have your family and friends support? Right now a good support system is key, you can do this without him and still have everything your child needs. Don't let this freak you out too much, you need to be strong for your little one gorwing inside of you

[wonderbread]

Well if noone else in your family knows, like those that would be supportive you need to start telling them because you need to start thinking about what to do.
Think firstly what it best for the baby and you. You are twenty and would be a single parent if you do decide to raise the baby. Do you have a strong enough support team to help you and do you even want to keep it.
Secondly think about adoption if you have thought about it and feel like it would be best not to keep the baby.

As far as your boyfriend leaving, I am extremely sorry. I can't imagine that. But he is a man and most get freaked out about things like this. They feel like their life will be ruined by having a child. But the thing is, no matter how far they run they will always have a child in the world that is theirs. Maybe he just needs time to sort this out on his own. But there is the possiblity that he just doesn't want to deal with this problem and make it yours. But the truth is, he now has a responsibility. Even if he doesn't feel the same for you or care about you ( I am sorry for that too.) he has a responsiblity to the baby. So if you decide to keep the baby you can take legal action towards him so he can help provide for his baby.

[iHEAVENn]

Find out which state he's in, his home address, get a good family lawyer and get child support out of his behind.
He wants to start his life over fine, then let him. But don't let him get off without paying for his child.

You can raise the baby, you can give the baby all the love in the world. Anyone that just walks away doesn't deserve to enjoy the love and happiness a child brings.

[Stardaze]

You can raise the baby, you can give the baby all the love in the world. Anyone that just walks away doesn't deserve to enjoy the love and happiness a child brings.

This......

[AmberS9109]

You need to know, that him leaving was in no way your fault. He's a coward. He's leaving because he doesn't know if he can handle the responsibility of a child or he just plain doesn't want to.
But you have to realize, that even if you do want to make things work with him; you shouldn't have a guy in the baby's life who can just walk in and out when he feels like it. You have to put your foot down and say "Hey! Either grow up or get out. This is our baby, and if you don't want a part of his life, fine. I can give him all the love he needs!"
I hope I helped a little, and good luck with your pregnancy

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey,
I can understand why you're scared, the prospect of being a single parent is scary and difficult but you can do this with the support of your friends and family.
Plenty of people manage to do an amazing job of being a single parent. I suggest speaking to your friends and family and letting them know you're finding this difficult. I'm sure they'll be on hand when the baby comes along and through-out your pregnancy.
Obviously I'd be lying if I told you this was going to be easy.

A lot of men are scared when they find out they are becoming dads, especially when you haven't known the person for a long time. It was not right for the babys dad to walk out on you while you're pregnant.
Maybe he will man up and come back, but this isn't something you can depend upon.
I know you're finding this scary but it will get easier.
Once you become a mum and you get used to having a baby you will find things easier, there are going to be tough times but as long as you have strong family and friends around who you can turn to for support then you're going to make an amazinf mum and your child is going to have some amazing role models around for them to look up to when they grow older.

Good luck and I'm always here to talk or give support to you.
Paige
xx