97% sure i'm pregnant , but is there any hope that im not?

[InMyTimeOfDying]

this past saturday...i got drunk and ended up having sex with this guy....welll it was dark in the room so i couldn't see him...but i told him to put the condom on and i heard him open the package and put it on...and i heard it snap? i guess...not like break...but like it was on...then its obvious what came next....but the whole time we were having sex he kept bitching about the condom not staying on..that should have been my warning sign to stop right there. well when he came and got off of me, something didn't feel right...i felt myself down there and all of his cum was all over my vagina...(inside it too, idk...i didn't check) and i flipped out and screamed at him...and said where is the condom at? and he showed it to me and it was completely empty...no rips, tears or holes...it was just empty..and thats when it hit me that all his cum was on me...soo i went to the bathroom and got some toilet paper and wiped it off..and that was that...then later on that early morning, i came home..and since it was 4am i couldn't take a shower, if that would have helped anything? and so i just went to sleep, then the next morning i took a shower...am i pregnant definatly? or is there a possibility that i'm not?

[Lizzie]

There is always a possibility of becoming pregnant when having sex whether or not you used protection. But I don’t understand why you assume that you are pregnant so soon? You said it happened last Saturday, so it has only been six days. You will have to wait another week before you can even get an accurate read on a pregnancy test. If you really can’t wait you can go to your doctor’s and have a blood test done.

[Daydreamer]

The only way you will no for sure is if you take a pregnancy test. You can wait until your period to see if it's late/you skip it and then take a test. We can't tell you if you are or not. If you can't get an at home pregnancy test you can go to your doctor. Honestly the shower probably wouldn't have helped any. The sperm was already on you and already had it's chance to get into your system. Try not to freak out (really really hard to do I know) But that could cause your period to be late. Hope this helps. Let us know how it works out. Best, Megan

[InMyTimeOfDying]

thanks, you guys...and the reason why i think i am...is because of the situation of what happened..

[Jack]

Now, there are no definitelys when it comes down to pregnancy. Just having sex without protection does not mean you'll be pregnant, you have to be at the right stage of your menstrual cycle to get pregnant and there are only a few days per month you can conceive. However, it's still a possiblity. A good indication how likely you are to be pregnant might be to think about when you last had your period and then figure out when you'll be most fertile. Most women are most fertile from days 12-16, so if you just had your period or are just about to have it the chances are less likely (although still not impossible).

The only way to know for certain is to take a test.

[Algernon]

Yeah, It's too late to take Plan B... If you weren't ovulating you can't get pregnant... You ovulate typically 14 days after your period... Is that around how many days from your last period?

If you do find out you are pregnant, we are all here to help you out. We won't let you down, okay? Worry is worthless and It's just best to take things as they come. I do advise you not to have sex with this individual again, I'm glad you wanted a condom, that shows that you're taking responsibility. The guy probably just doesn't like condoms and tried to fool you. I wouldn't trust him. And if you get pregnant, and have the kid, take his ass to court for child support =)

[InMyTimeOfDying]

thanks, and actually i took this plan b pill back in january and got my period for a short while...and then it went and didn't come back at all..but i was also sexually active around then but i used protection and i checked it when all was finished with and everything was in there...honestly, i have no clue....i just need to take a pregnancy test....

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by TheRealMeUnleashed

thanks, and actually i took this plan b pill back in january and got my period for a short while...and then it went and didn't come back at all..but i was also sexually active around then but i used protection and i checked it when all was finished with and everything was in there...honestly, i have no clue....i just need to take a pregnancy test....

Yeah, I would take a test in about a week, maybe less since you said it was last Saturday? Just learn from this situation. Maybe get on a birth control pill, get some condoms from the clinic. If you're going to have sex it should be healthy sex. When you do have healthy sex, you have a confidence that comes with it, because you know you're safe and doing the right thing. One time can ruin your life. I've always tried to be safe, and I've been active for 4 years. No babies so far

[InMyTimeOfDying]

thanks, and i will...thank you all so much for the advice, i feel a lot more ready to tackle this situation

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by TheRealMeUnleashed

thanks, and i will...thank you all so much for the advice, i feel a lot more ready to tackle this situation

Good. You can always leave me a message. I'm on here a lot of the time =)

[InMyTimeOfDying]

alright, i sure will

[flowerchild32273]

yea i know they answered your question but i just want to say try not to stress too much because that can make your period late (i think it does that to us when we're worried about pregnancy just to spite us =P)

[LucyLouWho]

No, you're not definitely pregnant. Wait and see if you miss your period. If you do, take a test and then go from there.

[FlyingTrue]

In my opinion, this can be considered rape for multiple reasons:

1) You were drunk and legally you are unable to give consent
2) You are not of the age where you can legally give consent
3) Even if the other two factors were not an issue, you agreed to sex under the terms where protection would be used, and since he did not use protection the act was not consensual

So I suggest that you tell your parents and file a police report.

[delete]

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa...

I really don't mean to sound rude, but am I the only one who thinks 14 is a tad young to be getting drunk and having sex? Maybe, to keep this from happening, you should try and not do that... but that's just my opinion. As for the rape thing posted, how old was he for one, and honestly, i think it would be ridiculous to file a report now, and really, if he was a young guy who thought you consented, as if you didn't make him stop or say no, that would just seem idk, not something i would do. if i said stop! then i would file a report, as it is totally inappropriate. He might have possibly been drunk also and unable to give consent, and been under age so... just saying before anyone goes to file a report. He tried using protection, but idk it failed apparently. take a pregnancy test if your period is late, and just take it from there. Don't stress either, as that will delay your period. If you are not mature enough or able to care for a child, or not to properly use protection and choose a sexual partner, i don't believe sex is a good idea at this time, and keeping from doing it for awhile at your age might be good. your body isn't mature, along with mind. Also, it would keep pregnancies from happening, and save you a lot of trouble at this age. Not trying to be a bitch, but at your age, it seems like the best thing.

[ChapperIce]

If the condom was completely empty, it sounds like to me that he took it off without you knowing. Also if he is older than you it is possible what he did was statutory rape.

If he did indeed take off the condom after you both agreed to using one, you can press charges for this as well.

On the pregnancy, there is a high chance you are pregnant. I say wait until your period is actually due to panic,but if you're really worrying, get a blood test at the doctor's.

[flowerchild32273]

hey dont tell her there's a high chance. it depends on where she is in her cycle. dont make her panic when she doesnt need to yet. yes 14 is young but she didnt come here for judgment from us. the guy was 18 so it is statutory since she's under the age of consent and she could file a police report if she wanted to. her parents could also file

[ChapperIce]

Risk rather than chance, then? i'm not going to lie and say there's a low risk of pregnancy with her situation. However it is possible she isn't considering it was recent and she hasn't had any sort of test yet.

[adfactor]

there is always a chance that your not pregnant. he might be infertile or so could you.

[BabyIndia]

There is a chance you could be, but like others have said you may not have been ovulating at that time. Just don't stress over it, and get your self a testing kit.

You know what to do next time don't you. Don't get drunk and you wont have to write these threads.

Hope everything goes how you want it to go.

[delete]

Originally Posted by flowerchild32273

hey dont tell her there's a high chance. it depends on where she is in her cycle. dont make her panic when she doesnt need to yet. yes 14 is young but she didnt come here for judgment from us. the guy was 18 so it is statutory since she's under the age of consent and she could file a police report if she wanted to. her parents could also file

Look, I'm not trying to judge, but I am pretty sure I'm not the only person who would suggest maybe abstaining from sex until she is mature enough to handle all the responsibilities that come with it, such as properly using protection, and being prepared for the what if's if protection failed. I'm not trying to judge, but I am trying to make a logical suggestion, as not having or getting proper protection would save her from another mess like this. Take a test, and see what it reads, such as positive or negative for pregnancy, then take it from there. Just try to be more responsible next time with sex, or don't have it

[Through-Glass]

Katie,

I will restate what has already been said. Any time you have sex, with protection or without, there is a chance of pregnancy. It's a much, much smaller chance if you use protection, but the possibility is still there. Always make sure that you use protection when having sex; if you must, but the condom on yourself. It may also be beneficial for you to look into taking birth control pills.

Wait two weeks, and then take an at-home pregnancy test. You could also go to a doctor for a blood test five days after sex.

I will not lecture you on the dangers of drinking and unprotected sex. However, just remember to take care of yourself; pregnancy is not your only worry, as you could also contract a sexually transmitted disease. Using a condom is the only way to protect yourself from STDs, besides just not having sex at all.

Take care, and if you need anything, feel free to send me a PM.

[InMyTimeOfDying]

thanks you guys =)

[PSY]

Hey there, Katie. I want to touch upon something that hasn't really been discussed yet. It may seem obvious, but you'd be surprised as to how many teens (and even adults!) don't do this one thing.

Do your research. Educate yourself. Don't rely entirely on what members of TeenHelp have told you, or on what you've read over the internet. Go to a medical professional (try Planned Parenthood or a non-profit women's clinic) and get all the facts.

• Learn how to properly store and apply condoms. Yes, men wear condoms, but WOMEN become pregnant... so it's just as much your responsibility to make sure that things are done correctly.
• Learn about the various methods of birth control, and talk to a physician about getting a prescription for it (you might even be able to get it for free at a non-profit women's clinic... and best of it, it's confidential!).
• Learn about STD's. Once you've seen a few pictures of genital warts, you'll NEVER go without a condom again (well, unless you really, REALLY trust your partner).
• Learn about your body and menstruation cycle. That way, you'll know when it's "safest" to have sex, and you'll have a better idea of when something isn't right (like your period being delayed).
• Learn about the emergency contraceptive pill, or "Plan B". Know when it is and is not effective to take it, and find out where you can get it (again, you might be able to get it for free at a non-profit women's clinic).

Finally, ask yourself what you would do, if you were to become pregnant (even after using condoms and birth control). Would you get an abortion, put your child up for adoption, or keep it? If you kept it, how would you support yourself and your child? You're 14, so chances are, your parents would have to bear the burden (unless your sexual partner was old enough - and willing - to provide financial support). Consider every possible scenario.

I know that this is a lot of information, and that it can be overwhelming to try and take all of this in... but think about how overwhelming it was (and perhaps still is) to imagine becoming pregnant unexpectedly, or becoming a single mom. Better to worry about all of this information now, vs. dealing with the consequences of not being properly informed later on. And again, do NOT settle for our advice alone. You're best off talking to an actual doctor, one who can talk you through the entire process in-person.

[WillO'Wisp]

If his cum was all over your vagina, there's probably a possibility some got inside of you too. But you are still young so there may be a possibility you are not. I would get tested just to be sure.

[InMyTimeOfDying]

thanks you guys

and robin too....i needed all that information and it helped a lot.

[delete]

So are you pregnant or not? We would like to know when you get a result