My friend is pregnant

[Pandaloo]

(I'm posting on behalf of her cause shes not able to get on here. But she's totally fine with it)

My friend, she had sex 3 weeks ago, and has the usual symptoms of a pregnancy. She went over to her friends house and took a pregnancy which was positive. (2 lines to be exact)

I am no doctor, we are young. And she doesn't know what to do..at all. Is there anything she can do?

[LucyLouWho]

First of all, she needs to tell her parents. It's not going to be easy and there aren't really any easier ways to say it other than, "I'm pregnant.". Next, she needs to decide what she's going to do... Keep the baby, adoption, or abortion. Either way, she's going to need help from her parents, so they need to know.

And she needs to tell them soon so if she wants an abortion, it won't be too late. Or if she's going to go through with the pregnancy, she needs to start taking prenatal vitamins as soon as possible because they're very important for the baby's development.

After her parents know, although they might be kind of upset about it, I'm sure they'll help her do what she needs to do. I wish your friend the best of luck and hope that telling the parents goes well.

[Jaguar]

Chelsey speaks wisdom, I second everything she said.

The shit is definitely going to hit the fan, so best get it over with. Unfortunately somebody in early pregnancy is experiencing big hormone upsets and is often not in a good place to deal with parents going off the deep end. Mothers handle it better, fathers go off the deep end a lot, but they usually do with everything else anyway.

Be a friend to your friend and support her as much as you can, she's going to be needing it in the coming month a lot.

[J&M's Mommy]

I agree with Chelsey. She definitely needs to tell her parents and decide what she wants to do.

[Pandaloo]

I'm pretty sure she doesn't want to keep the baby. Yet she is really is not fond of telling her mum. I'm pushing her lightly to do something, cause its obviously not a problem you can just brush off. So anymore word of advice to help her have the guts to tell her mum?

(She doesn't know her dad)

[Lizzie]

The sooner she tells her mom the better, the larger the child gets the more complicated things can get. Not to mention her age, being pregnant at that age can cause serious medical complications, this is not something she can just stay quite about. Does she know this can effect her health as well as the babies? Even if she doesn’t want to keep it, both of them need to see a doctor as soon as possible.

[LucyLouWho]

Originally Posted by Pandaloo

I'm pretty sure she doesn't want to keep the baby. Yet she is really is not fond of telling her mum. I'm pushing her lightly to do something, cause its obviously not a problem you can just brush off. So anymore word of advice to help her have the guts to tell her mum?

(She doesn't know her dad)

How far along is she? If she's wanting an abortion, she needs to tell her mother as soon as possible because if she waits for too long, it might be too late for her to have an abortion when she finally does want to get it.

There isn't going to be an easy way for her to tell her mom. The best way to go about it is to get up the courage and just go for it. Once it's out, she'll feel better and at least her mom will be able to help her.

[Pandaloo]

Well since the making of this thread, about 3 weeks. I told her its not something she can just brush off and that there is a limit till she cant have an abortion.

I'm gonna ask her again about it tomorrow. Thanks for the help so far guys

[TrustingThePain]

Okay... pregnancy does not start at conception, it statrs on the first day of your last menral cycle, so she is probably more like five weeks, ovulation is normaly about twoo weeks after fdlmc. she is obviously still in the grace period, in fact in most places the abortion would be a medical one, that is a series of pills as opposed to a d&con a live embreo. much less invasive. if she wants an abortion she will have to speak to an adult, in most areas at least. she shoud make a clear cut desision before she acts though, weigh all of her options, the pros and cons of each, encorage her to make a list as such and do a little research, either way have her talk to an adult, any adult, someone with the authority to help.