im pregnant. how do i tell mom and dad?

[broken]

My guy is looking for a place for us, he has a good stable job and can support me and baby. Hes gonna get me a ring, we're gonna get married, especially since I do not like abortion, and i dont think i could ever give baby away. My guy feels the same way. I'm keeping baby, getting married, and for a girl in my position, I've generally got it good. Except i dont know how to tell my mom and dad.

I've never been good socially and i cant argue worth anything, and our religion says sex before marriage is wrong. (mom made the same mistake with dad, so it cant be too horrible...) But seriously. I'm scared over this whole thing. Its life changing and I'm not even sure im gonna be a good mommy... (but im gonna try, gosh darnit!)

Do you know any tips on what to say? Advise? Stories of how you told your parents? What did you do when you were in my position? What would you do if you were in my position? I'm just... clueless. Help is welcome! ANYTHING you have to share will help!

-Lissie

[LucyLouWho]

Hey there.
There's really no easy way to tell your parents that you're pregnant. You pretty much just have to come out and say it. But once you do, you'll feel so much better that they know. I would suggest that telling them face to face would really be the best way, but some people simply can't do that. If that's the case, maybe write them a letter so you can get out everything that you have to say without being interrupted.

If you haven't already started taking prenatal vitamins, start as soon as possible. They're very important for the baby's growth and development. I got mine for free at the local health department/planned parenthood, so try to check into that.

Definitely open a savings account strictly for the baby and keep adding money to it little by little because it's going to take a lot of money to prepare for and eventually raise the baby.

If you don't have any kind of insurance, you should also try to apply for some as soon as possible so you can start getting prenatal care. After you tell your parents, maybe they could help you out with this.

Also, I just want to add that you don't HAVE to get married just because you're pregnant. There are plenty of mommies and daddies who are great parents but aren't married. However, if this is something that you're pretty much set on doing, just be sure that you're 100% sure and ready before you do it.

Other than that, just eat right, take the prenatal vitamins, get that insurance, and start seeing a doctor soon. Best of luck with your pregnancy and I hope that telling your parents goes alright for you.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me. =]
And good luck again.

[OurLovesSublime]

Chelsey is right... the best way is just to come out and say it, preferably FACE to FACE. My mom told me that she was so happy that I didn't tell her over the phone, etc. Try your best not to sound upset or cry (that was my mistake). I know you'll be nervous, but if you feel generally positive about this pregnancy I feel it's important to show it.

Trust me that they will be upset at first... that's why there is no good way to break it to them. But, they will come around eventually and love your child and want to spoil it to death At least mine did. Just don't put it off. My mom wish I had told her much earlier.

It's great that you have a plan to share with them to show that you're being responsible about this. Good luck, and keep us updated!

[asphyxiated]

I agree with the posts above me.
Try starting by saying that this is extremely hard for you, and that you want them to know that way they can give you the best possible help and support. Tell them that your scared and you need them to be there with you, because whats ahead is not going to be easy.

Chances are they are going to be upset when you first tell them, but I'm sure they'll come around. Babies are cute and no one can be angry at them

[broken]

lol you guys rock... thank you. (if anyone else has stories or advice, i wanna hear it!) i am positive about this, but i am scared.
Ok, so I dont have prenatal vitamins, but ive been taking normal vitamins for ladies, since i dont have access to prenatal ones. Thank you so much for reminding me about a savings account! Thats really smart. Oh, and I have insurance, and once we get married (we're pretty set on it) he has insurance he can add me to.
I'll tell mom and dad soon. Probably at the end of the week. I know I'm pregnant, boobs are huge now and ive had morning sickness, but im still going to take another test just because we agreed to take two. We were going to wait till after the second test to tell our parents. I'll probably tell my mom first... Is that smart? Should I tell them at the same time?
My baby will be adorable ^-^ I'll try and post pictures when it's all over with. My parents already have three granbabies from my sisters so hopefully this wont be a disaster telling them...
Thanks guys! I will be thinking about baby all week... its a good thing schools out on Thursday or else I'd fail all my classes.

Lol, I just asked my boyfriend if we could look into a savings account and he already has one up for baby... lol

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by broken

My guy is looking for a place for us, he has a good stable job and can support me and baby. Hes gonna get me a ring, we're gonna get married, especially since I do not like abortion, and i dont think i could ever give baby away. My guy feels the same way. I'm keeping baby, getting married, and for a girl in my position, I've generally got it good. Except i dont know how to tell my mom and dad.

I've never been good socially and i cant argue worth anything, and our religion says sex before marriage is wrong. (mom made the same mistake with dad, so it cant be too horrible...) But seriously. I'm scared over this whole thing. Its life changing and I'm not even sure im gonna be a good mommy... (but im gonna try, gosh darnit!)

Do you know any tips on what to say? Advise? Stories of how you told your parents? What did you do when you were in my position? What would you do if you were in my position? I'm just... clueless. Help is welcome! ANYTHING you have to share will help!

-Lissie

I just wanted to tell you I'm 110% proud of what you're doing. It takes a very mature person to do what you're doing, and I think you're making all the right choices. You're taking responsibility for your actions. I hope everything turns out well for you.

[LucyLouWho]

Originally Posted by broken

lol you guys rock... thank you. (if anyone else has stories or advice, i wanna hear it!) i am positive about this, but i am scared.
Ok, so I dont have prenatal vitamins, but ive been taking normal vitamins for ladies, since i dont have access to prenatal ones. Thank you so much for reminding me about a savings account! Thats really smart. Oh, and I have insurance, and once we get married (we're pretty set on it) he has insurance he can add me to.
I'll tell mom and dad soon. Probably at the end of the week. I know I'm pregnant, boobs are huge now and ive had morning sickness, but im still going to take another test just because we agreed to take two. We were going to wait till after the second test to tell our parents. I'll probably tell my mom first... Is that smart? Should I tell them at the same time?
My baby will be adorable ^-^ I'll try and post pictures when it's all over with. My parents already have three granbabies from my sisters so hopefully this wont be a disaster telling them...
Thanks guys! I will be thinking about baby all week... its a good thing schools out on Thursday or else I'd fail all my classes.

Lol, I just asked my boyfriend if we could look into a savings account and he already has one up for baby... lol

You really do need to get some prenatal vitamins because they have the specific amounts of folic acid, iron, etc. that the baby needs to develop well. Folic acid is especially important and prenatal vitamins are the very best for it. Folic acid taken early in pregnancy can help prevent neural tube defects.

Take a look at this link, maybe.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnan...olic_acid.html

[broken]

Thanks for the encouragement! It helps.
Oh I know about that stuff, ive been through three pregnancies (my sisters, not mine) so I know, but I just dont have access to it yet. My mom knows a really good place to get it, and I imagine she'll get it for me once I tell her. Thanks all again, and if anyone else has something to say, I'm listening.

[iHEAVENn]

We bought my mom a diamond necklace and a card that said something like
"congrats Gramma!!"

lol.

Yeah it was a nice way to tell her... but everyone in the family already knew because of how sick I was. (Was so sick I started missing work within 3 weeks of becoming pregnant)

You can tell your parents separately there's nothing wrong with that.
But you do need to tell them soon if they're your way to get prenatal vitamins.

It's good that your boyfriend is starting to set things up for you guys, if you ever need to talk to a Mommy, I'm always here.

[J&M's Mommy]

Congrats! I just came straight out and told my mom. Actually, she kind of guessed it because I was having a rough time just blurting it out.

[mommieof2]

i cried my eyes out when i told my mom. i got pregnant when i lost my virginity so to even let her know that i was having sex embarrassed me so much! But i just asked her if she could take me to the doctor, and she asked why...so i told her that i was pregnant. She suggested i take a home pregnancy test first...well i had already taken 7 and they all came out positive. I had to make sure before i told mom lol. She was okay with it. Didn't really react at all which surprised me since my mom was always so opinionative lol.

with my second pregnancy i just tossed her the test since i had been trying to get pregnant. that was much easier. There is no right or wrong way to tell them. They are going to find out eventually. Just be honest.

[Jaguar]

You're gonna say,"Mom, ___ and I are getting married." And she's gonna say, "Are you pregnant?" and you're gonna say, "Yes." That's how it goes.

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by Jaguar

You're gonna say,"Mom, ___ and I are getting married." And she's gonna say, "Are you pregnant?" and you're gonna say, "Yes." That's how it goes.

That's a good one.

[Jaguar]

Congratulations!

I'm sure you'll make a fine mother.

[kimvia]

you can get pre-natal vitamins at any pharmacy or drug store (idk what they're called in australia- maybe chemists?) the should be with all the other vitamins. if you can't find them, ask and employee there. good luck hun!!!!

[franz1]

Originally Posted by broken

My guy is looking for a place for us, he has a good stable job and can support me and baby. Hes gonna get me a ring, we're gonna get married, especially since I do not like abortion, and i dont think i could ever give baby away. My guy feels the same way. I'm keeping baby, getting married, and for a girl in my position, I've generally got it good. Except i dont know how to tell my mom and dad.

I've never been good socially and i cant argue worth anything, and our religion says sex before marriage is wrong. (mom made the same mistake with dad, so it cant be too horrible...) But seriously. I'm scared over this whole thing. Its life changing and I'm not even sure im gonna be a good mommy... (but im gonna try, gosh darnit!)

Do you know any tips on what to say? Advise? Stories of how you told your parents? What did you do when you were in my position? What would you do if you were in my position? I'm just... clueless. Help is welcome! ANYTHING you have to share will help!

-Lissie

as stated by (chealsy) it is never easy to open up to your parents about private/personal things like being pregnant.
I think that if you are just honest they will take it better than if they were to find out by you giving birth to the baby.

long story short-just try and open up and admit to your parents that you are pregnant, trust me it is better that way.

-good luck-
franz1
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Originally Posted by xHolyValorx

That's a good one.

well said...

[broken]

Thank you so much, guys!
Well, I went to mom. And I asked her to take me to the doctor, and i showed her the test, and she wasnt surprised or upset or anything. She took dad to a restaurant after he got home and she told him.. she thought he would take it better coming from her. He was disappointed, but not too terribly upset. He's pretty excited to have a grandchild in the same region as he is (since my sisters live quite a few regions away).
My guy got us rings, and we'll probably get married in two months. I will find out how far along I am in two days. I'm excited! Everything seems to be falling in place, and God is taking care of us. ^-^

[LucyLouWho]

Originally Posted by broken

Thank you so much, guys!
Well, I went to mom. And I asked her to take me to the doctor, and i showed her the test, and she wasnt surprised or upset or anything. She took dad to a restaurant after he got home and she told him.. she thought he would take it better coming from her. He was disappointed, but not too terribly upset. He's pretty excited to have a grandchild in the same region as he is (since my sisters live quite a few regions away).
My guy got us rings, and we'll probably get married in two months. I will find out how far along I am in two days. I'm excited! Everything seems to be falling in place, and God is taking care of us. ^-^

That's great to hear. I'm glad that it went pretty well. Since you've told them and the advice you were asking for in this thread is therefore not needed anymore, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread. But if you have any other questions, feel free to create another thread.

PM me if you ever want to talk.

[acidkoolz]

The same thing happened to us when we told the parents we were getting married. Mom was OK with it, but she had to tell dad

As far as when we had our baby, we had been trying for awhile so everyone sort of had an idea already, but congratulations!

[sunnnyBoo]

Congrats(=
Telling your mom &nd Dad is hard,
&nd they might even get angry at you for awhile;
but they'll come to understand that its your life.
You'll feel 390753257932856x better after you tell them, aswell.

[Fictional]

Aw, congratulations I'm glad that your parents are happy and ok with it

[fame]

When I broke the news to my parents that I was pregnant, at first they flipped out and told me that they would not ever help me or the baby. However, after I gave them some time to cool down they started to come around, and now they are the most supportive grandparents ever! I guess what I am trying to say is even if their initial reaction is not the best, just give them some time to digest what you just told them before you get upset yourself.

Hope that helps!