Male Advice Preferred: Am I just going through puberty?

[Travi1997]

I have a crush on a girl which is normal. But I recently turned 13 and am not sure what to do. There is a boy at my school who is short like me (about 4'11") and I like him. I am straight but have a weird feeling around him. He also smells good (I know, lol.) and I get turned on when he is around me. Any help? Is it just puberty? Also, he seems awkward around guys and may also be bi/gay/etc. [Edited]

[taylalatbh.]

It's totally normal to be experimenting with your sexuality at your age. It could just be hormones during puberty, or it could be who you are. Try not to stress yourself out about it because there's just no need.

If you like a girl, fine, if you like a guy, that's fine too. If you're interested in getting closer with one of those guys, then you need to speak to them first and find a way of finding out what their sexual preference is. Then, if it's good news, you could pursue the relationship.

It all takes time, just like a 'straight' relationship does. Work hard on it, and keep talking and getting to know the potential partner of yours.

Message me if you'd like to talk some more, take care

[Jaguar]

Well, it sounds pretty normal for 13 so I wouldn't worry about it.

But it's not fair to identify people with photos without their permission. It could leave him open to bullying.

[Jmansoccer6296]

It could possibly be hormones, they go bizerkk when your a teenager, but it could also not be. Take time and dont worry about it to much. I agree with Tayla as well. Try get to get to know the kid, who knows, he could also be experimenting or confused. Having friends who know about ur feelings can be major help points, for they can give you advice, and give you help. Im going through the same problem, and my friend helps me out soo much. PM me later if you want, i would be glad to help. Hope I helped.

[harley]

it is perfictly normal to have the feelings for him it is ok if you feel like this

[~Phantom~]

Originally Posted by Travi1997

I have a crush on a girl which is normal. But I recently turned 13 and am not sure what to do. There is a boy at my school who is short like me (about 4'11") and I like him. I am straight but have a weird feeling around him. He also smells good (I know, lol.) and I get turned on when he is around me. Any help? Is it just puberty? Also, he seems awkward around guys and may also be bi/gay/etc. [Edited]

Its part of it to question sexuality at such an age. No one can really tell you what you feel, thats something you will have to face and deal with. See whats behind all those feelings and above all learn about you.

[Travi1997]

Today he said see you tomorrow to me which he didn't say to anyone else

[Jmansoccer6296]

Have you got any closer to him??

[Travi1997]

Nope; and he talked to me more today

[Jmansoccer6296]

Thats a good sign, keep it up. Just keep trying to talk to him and get to know him a lot more. Even if its just a little more each day, try your best to get to know him. PM me if you need me, i would like to help.

[Sythan]

When I was 13, I had the same feelings. I had girlfriends, and I liked them. But I also felt the same feelings for boys too. I knew I was Bisexual, that I liked BOTH Boys and Girls.

You may or may not end up like me. You may turn out straight and this was just a phase, or you could be Bisexual and like both genders.

I can understand you and where your coming from, its not easy when you dont have someone to lean on or to talk to, I know becuase I didnt have that person. But I can be here for you.

[Geminiboy]

i was the same way when i was that age it's deff a roller coaster ride trying to figure out who you are but dont stress about it and dont try to change things about your self to try and impress him or her for the girl you like just be yourself and you ll find your way

[harley]

Its good that you are trying talk to him you just need to get into a conversarion about that

[Spicy_]

Hey there.

You're 13 with raging hormones. Now with puberty kicking in and such. Thus questioning or being curious about the same gender is pretty much normal for teenagers, you'll be surprised how much teenagers around you and your age are going through the exact same thing.

It's good that you seem really attracted to a girl, and its perfectly fine to also be attracted to guy. I really suggest you just take the guy, slowly and don't rush. I mean talk a lot, hang out and such; do the normal guy things. Then maybe after a couple years see where things are going? "Do you still have a attraction to this guy" "could you picture starting a relationship with him?". If answered yes, it may be potential for being bi/bi curious. Just don't worry about it to much.

And yes, please try not to assume things. Just because he seems awkward around guys doesn't mean he' g@y or bi. He could just be on the shy type. Remember that just because a person posses LGBT qualities in them does not mean they are. I mean I know people who possessed g@y qualities, but they were perfectly straight. The only way to confirm something is by that person. But at this early teenage age; I would not recommend asking him if he's bi/g@y. Like how I said, it just might be a phase for both of you, that could fade in the long run

But nevertheless, if in the future you should turn out to be bi. I really want to assure you that you aren't the only one. They're are Lott's of guys that are also LGBT. Take for example me, I'm 17; and I have been curious around guys for a long time, and just recently I came out as bi.

Well hope I helped, PM if anything