I can't feel anything during sex

[TH Anonymous]

[SIZE="a"]Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl and I have been with my bf for 6 months now, I have the implant and he always uses a condom, we've always been safe so far. My problem is that I have never really felt what I would consider a good feeling during sex, I've seen the movies and I've watched porn with him a few times and the women seem to have an amazing time and they look like they're feeling really good!

I want that feeling, and it's really starting to get to me down how I'm just laid there not feeling anything apart from him going in and out of me.

What is wrong with me???[/size]

[Rivière]

The problem with watching films and porn, is that they're not a real representation of sex. In films, it's always very simulated and acted out to be the best that it can be. A lot of the lead up to having sex is skipped, and a lot of the situations actors are having sex in are often placed in ideal locations. Similarly with porn, while it's not simulated, a lot of it is designed for the male audience in mind. Not females. You'll notice in many of the videos it's always the male orgasming, rarely the female. It's all about male pleasure. Again, this is a poor representation of how sex is meant to be because as with films, they're designed with entertainment purposes in mind. A lot of the reality is cut out.

In reality, sex can be awkward as well. It doesn't always work out. It can be clunky, fumbly, and it can be in locations that are far from ideal.

Rather than using what you see online or on television to try and 'get you going', consider actually discussing the issue with your boyfriend and experiment with what works for you. Every single female is different. Not to mention that foreplay plays a large part in having sex. You have to be mentally stimulated to enjoy it as well.

Another thing to mention is to keep in mind that pornographic material, regardless of country, is quite commonly restricted to audiences of those 18+. A lot of young people like yourself have a misunderstood connection with sex because of pornographic material. It creates this idea that's what sex is meant to be and how it should be performed, when again, it's not. It's adult content designed for adults. For now I would consider avoiding watching that sort of thing, and just discuss the issue with your boyfriend and see if there are other ways he can pleasure you besides penetration.