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Update Post: Am I too small to have sex?

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]Hi new friends at Teen Help! Thank you for everyone who replied to my first post about me being 13 and having sex with my bf for the first time. I read what everyone wrote and I spent the weekend with my best friend because my mom had to work, and I told her and her mom what happened. We are all very close. Our moms were friends before we were born. Her mom ended up calling my mom and asked her if she could take me shopping for bras. So now I have some bras! They are really cute.

So my best friend, I'll call her L, told me that my bf actually F*ed me the right way. She showed me gifs of ppl having sex which really made me excited. But in all of them [edited]. L told me it feels good to them when they do that, push in and out. What is it called when a guy does that? Is that humping? Or F*ing? L used the word thrusting, but I'm not sure that's right! Ha ha. I keep on thinking about my bf [edited] and it makes me hot all over. Is that normal? L also told me that my bf wasn't complaining when he said how tight I was. Do guys like [edited]? I really want to talk to someone older so they can give me more info. Should I register? Can I talk to someone if I register? I could use some friends who know more.

L and I looked up masterbation because her mom said I should probably hold off on sex until I'm 16, but I'm really horny so L said we should look up fun ways to masterbate. Is 16 a good age to have sex? So, L and I were reading all sorts of stuff and we decided just to try some of it out, and she said I needed to make circles around my clit with my finger. She asked if she could show me, and of course I said she could. It felt so good when she was circling my clit. We took our clothes off and started rubbing our tits together and fingering each other. L was [edited] and I was fingering myself when her dad walked in because we had the door open. He stared for a couple seconds, said sorry and that we should close the door next time, and that dinner would be ready in 5 minutes!! L and I about died. He didn't get mad at us though. Is it ok that we masterbate together? Or is that not ok? I think it's better because we can't get pregnant with each other and we already trust each other. It felt really good, and I just want to do it again! Is it ok that she made me really wet? Now I'm not sure if I like guys or girls better, ha ha. I'm so confused.[/size][/color][/font]

Re: Update Post: Am I too small to have sex?

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]One more question I forgot to ask. Why is it important that I don't allow guys to touch my tits? They like it and I like it. I have bras now, but then guys can't see my pokies. I feel like if I don't wear a bra then guys will want to have sex with me more. And I really want to have sex again in the future. If guys touch my tits it makes them happy and they want to be around me. Plus when they touch me I think about their [edited] and that gets me really excited, so I don't understand why it's bad. I think letting guys touch me for fun has made me popular.[/size][/color][/font]

Re: Update Post: Am I too small to have sex?

you should not let guys touch you like that. it is illegal. as for everything else it is good that you got bras so they cant do that.

it is good that you are talking to your friend now and you have a resource to go to. As for sex it is a good idea to hold off.

it is a good idea to make an account so you can PM people and post any questions that you would like to ask.

feel free to PM me about your situation

Re: Update Post: Am I too small to have sex?

Hi,

You shouldn't allow guys to touch you, even if you feel good about it, simply because it's inappropriate and can give way to worse things down the road. What might seem like harmless caressing of the breasts now could lead to boys molesting you when you don't want them to. If that sort of situation happens, they might just say that you were "asking for it" and that "you like it anyway". You are putting yourself in danger, that's why. Besides, your body is not a toy for them to play with, and therefore it's just so important that you don't allow yourself to continue engaging in this sort of behaviour with them. It might seem racy and exciting now, and perhaps make you popular among the boys, but these days might come back and haunt you with embarrassment when you're older and more mature. When you're older and are with a partner who respects you and your body, you can think of consensual intimacy.

As to when you can have sex, you should only engage in sex when you're of legal age. I don't know which country you're based in, but in most countries, this is between 16-18 years old. Even when you're of legal age, you don't have to have sex just for the sake of it. You need to first understand what having sex entails, the consequences, contraception, etc. (which you'll soon learn about in school) before you can make an informed choice about it. I suggest you don't worry about sex now at all, you're waaaaay too young.

I understand that at your age, you'll be really curious about sex and all, but for the reason mentioned above, it shouldn't propel you to actually have sex - both heterosexual and homosexual (like what appears to have happened with your best friend L). Masturbation is something you do by yourself, not with someone else. While masturbation is a much preferable option compared to sex with a partner when you're so young, remember that it's a form of addiction at the end of the day. You'll get hooked on to it, which might distract you from other things like your studies. If you're feeling horny, you can perhaps use it as an opportunity to read up about sexuality and puberty. Educating yourself on these matters will be helpful too. That is a much more healthy pursuit compared to watching porn or letting others finger/have sex with you. Here are some useful links: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens
https://www.adolescenthealth.org/Res...r-Adolesc.aspx

Don't worry about whether you're attracted to boys or girls; the stuff that you engage in at this age will make you feel excited in any case, whether you do it with a boy, with a girl or even with yourself (i.e. masturbation). Hence, how you let yourself get pleasured is not a parameter to decide your sexuality/sexual orientation; that is something you will realise only as you grow older.