bdsm troubles

SomeGuy03 · **bdsm troubles -** October 27th 2018, 12:06 AM

Hi there. I'm 14.

I'm currently on the verge of a panic attack. I have had this problem for months and I'm sick of this endless cycle of feeling so sad. I'm interested in BDSM and I'm so creeped out by myself. I try to accept it but everytime I masturbate to bondage or something I feel so dirty and wrong. I feel like I'm objectifying women. And then I try to not be into it which in turn makes me feel awful because I can't help being attracted to it. And it's all I think about day in day out and I'm just exhausted. I have no friends or family to talk to and talking to strangers online is my only way of venting. I understand BDSM is about consent and trust but I feel like I'm some creep who likes seeing women tied up. Why am I like this? ( I need to stress I do have anxiety which is pretty much the cause of all this).

brookeelizabeth · **Re: bdsm troubles -** October 27th 2018, 01:26 AM

trust me this is totally normal, bdsm is perfectly fine to be into. as long as everyone is consenting there's nothing wrong with it. the women in the bdsm community who are subs are consenting to be tied up or objectified, you shouldn't feel guilty for what you're into

Pamarlisa · **Re: bdsm troubles -** November 9th 2018, 05:15 AM

The fact that you like it is quite normal, but what others do not like is their personal problems. You should not listen to other people and change your opinion about them.

lourent · **Re: bdsm troubles -** November 12th 2018, 07:48 PM

find people like u and do it.

Coffee. · **Re: bdsm troubles -** November 13th 2018, 03:29 PM

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to BDSM! A big emphasis in that community is the idea of consent: everybody doing it is willing and enjoying what is going on, and debriefed before and after each "scene." While a lot of pornography can be degrading or objectifying to women, it's very common for people to watch. But there isn't anything wrong with you for being interested in it.

DysfunctionallyFunctional · **Re: bdsm troubles -** November 15th 2018, 02:14 AM

Certainly nothing wrong with it. What is wrong is you our letting outside things interfere with what you enjoy. You aren't pushing it onto other people so what is wrong with enjoying it for yourself? Find a ground of people that have the same interest and join in.

Wobr Bobr · 04:21 AM

For me BDSM is the only way to get horny and that scares shit out of me. I am going to try using edited or somethink like this, maybe that way I'll fell something about normal sex. And if it doesn't work, I'll definitely go talk to a therapist.

CecilFitzgerald · **Re: bdsm troubles -** May 20th 2020, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by SomeGuy03

Hi there. I'm 14.

I'm currently on the verge of a panic attack. I have had this problem for months and I'm sick of this endless cycle of feeling so sad. I'm interested in BDSM and I'm so creeped out by myself. I try to accept it but everytime I masturbate to bondage or something I feel so dirty and wrong. I feel like I'm objectifying women. And then I try to not be into it which in turn makes me feel awful because I can't help being attracted to it. And it's all I think about day in day out and I'm just exhausted. I have no friends or family to talk to and talking to strangers online is my only way of venting. I understand BDSM is about consent and trust but I feel like I'm some creep who likes seeing women tied up. Why am I like this? ( I need to stress I do have anxiety which is pretty much the cause of all this).

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