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lilymadeline27 May 11th 2009 07:13 PM
locations to have sex...
 
So this may be kinda weird, but the only place my boyfriend and I have ever had sex is in my car..
I feel like I'm missing out! like I wish i could just have sex with my boyfriend who I love in a bed! (what a concept!) He's been to my house but we've never gotten the courage to have sex in my basement on the couch let alone my bed. He's been in my room before, but if we were to stay in there long with the door shut, we'd get walked in on by a suspicious parent for sure.
The ironic thing is that having sex in the car is also a little scary because of getting caught by like a stranger or something..
Does anyone have any advice? it doesn't need to be innapropriate advice but I mean how does anyone get to have sex anywhere else? What do people do for privacy? Do your parents just like know that you are having sex??

Algernon May 11th 2009 07:17 PM
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There are a million places... You just need to look. Cars work If you choose the right area, because you can get out of there if you need to.

Another friends house, preferably their closet or something.
In the bushes of a park where no one will see you.

Lizzie May 11th 2009 07:18 PM
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Well first off, just to let you know that having sex in your car, if not parked in a garage, is considered a sex felony. If a cop drove by, you two could get in huge trouble. And that is not something that you want. Especially if one of you is not of age. But even if you both were, sexual acts in public, and being in a car with windows is in view of the public, is illegal in all American states.
Honestly, I always feel, if you don’t have anywhere safe or private to be doing it, then maybe you should wait. Honestly having sex is not worth becoming a felon. It’s just not.
The only way I could think of you getting around this would be to wait until one of your parents left for the day, or weekend. And you had a house to yourself. That would be the safest way to do this. Other then that, doing it in the car definitely has its repercussions. Plus, like you said it is not comfortable or sexy. If you got pregnant over this would it really be worth it? There are just a lot of things to consider when it comes to having sex at your age. Especially if you really don’t have anywhere to do it.

Blackwing May 11th 2009 07:21 PM
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Bedroom/Hotel would be best to keep legal.

Algernon May 11th 2009 07:27 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Lizzie (Post 137725)
Well first off, just to let you know that having sex in your car, if not parked in a garage, is considered a sex felony. If a cop drove by, you two could get in huge trouble. And that is not something that you want. Especially if one of you is not of age. But even if you both were, sexual acts in public, and being in a car with windows is in view of the public, is illegal in all American states.
Honestly, I always feel, if you don’t have anywhere safe or private to be doing it, then maybe you should wait. Honestly having sex is not worth becoming a felon. It’s just not.
The only way I could think of you getting around this would be to wait until one of your parents left for the day, or weekend. And you had a house to yourself. That would be the safest way to do this. Other then that, doing it in the car definitely has its repercussions. Plus, like you said it is not comfortable or sexy. If you got pregnant over this would it really be worth it? There are just a lot of things to consider when it comes to having sex at your age. Especially if you really don’t have anywhere to do it.

Yep. It can be dangerous. If you're willing to take a chance, be ready to get out of there. Find a friends house to go to.

lilymadeline27 May 11th 2009 07:28 PM
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what if the windows are tinted like too dark to see in lol...

Algernon May 11th 2009 07:33 PM
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Originally Posted by lilymadeline27 (Post 137737)
what if the windows are tinted like too dark to see in lol...
All I'm going to say, Is you're taking a chance when you're doing something like that. From experience.

bitesize May 11th 2009 07:36 PM
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Oh man, I know how you feel. My boyfriend and I had that predicament back when we started; there was just nowhere to go!!
Like Holly said, do you have a friend's house you could go to?¿ Is his house to dodgy?¿ And what if one of you had a free house?¿
We do it in my boyfriend's house. His parents are unusually sound and let us hang out in his bedroom for hours with the door closed and let me stay over and sleep in his bed anytime we want to. But I'm more lucky than some. Is there anyway you could let your parents know that you want some privacy...?¿

*Rainbow*Rider* May 11th 2009 07:50 PM
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Hotels are generally your best bet. Its worth the money to not feel like you're sneaking around for once.

Magic. May 11th 2009 07:57 PM
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My exs parents just didn't care so we could do anything at his house, overly lucky.
My parents were a different story. We were allowed the door shut but they would call up / knock on the door etc. We ended up having sex at mine sometimes anyway, the risk was kind of part of the fun ... And yes, I would assume that my parents knew, not that they would ever confront me about something so 'dirty and rude'.
Personally I would say hotel, my friend did it, and there are quite a few cheap hotels out there, maybe do a bit of internet research into hotels in your area [we didn't think there would be any in ours but there's loads]. I wouldn't recommend outside unless it's totally private [like your garden] just because from personal experience, it wasn't as good / exciting as was expected.

Algernon May 11th 2009 08:33 PM
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Originally Posted by Sitting on the speaker (Post 137758)
Hotels are generally your best bet. Its worth the money to not feel like you're sneaking around for once.
I've done the hotel thing, I can be dangerous too. And the money is sometimes not worth it.

lilymadeline27 May 11th 2009 09:06 PM
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Originally Posted by bitesize (Post 137747)
Oh man, I know how you feel. My boyfriend and I had that predicament back when we started; there was just nowhere to go!!
Like Holly said, do you have a friend's house you could go to?¿ Is his house to dodgy?¿ And what if one of you had a free house?¿
We do it in my boyfriend's house. His parents are unusually sound and let us hang out in his bedroom for hours with the door closed and let me stay over and sleep in his bed anytime we want to. But I'm more lucky than some. Is there anyway you could let your parents know that you want some privacy...?¿
my parents like a light to be on in the basement when we hang out and he can't be in my room without the door open. he's usually up there though and my parents dont really enforce that rule though so it's possible we could get away with it, it's just risky business.

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Originally Posted by Sitting on the speaker (Post 137758)
Hotels are generally your best bet. Its worth the money to not feel like you're sneaking around for once.
don't you have to be 18 to get a room at a hotel? atleast in the U.S?

kimvia May 11th 2009 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Lizzie (Post 137725)
Well first off, just to let you know that having sex in your car, if not parked in a garage, is considered a sex felony.

Make sure you have the engine off if you are in the garage!!!!

I had sex in the car once... the alarm went off!:eek:

lilymadeline27 May 11th 2009 11:31 PM
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thanks for the help guys, i really do appreciate it.
i honestly hope i don't sound like a naive little kid or someone who is being dumb about sex. honestly, that's the last thing i will ever be.

Hdjdjdjduvieg May 11th 2009 11:34 PM
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I love picking different places to have sex... Here are some I've done and would like to do:
-A bed (parent's bed. ;) )
-Basement floor
-A chair
-A couch
-On a table
-On a blanket in the woods
-In the dead of night, under the stars in a an empty field on wet grass (personal favourite)
-Airplane restroom (mile high club)
-In a snuggie
-Car
-Tent
-Sleeping Bag

And there's so many more options. That's the fun of it. :)

lilymadeline27 May 11th 2009 11:48 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Scout (Post 137999)
I love picking different places to have sex... Here are some I've done and would like to do:
-A bed (parent's bed. ;) )
-Basement floor
-A chair
-A couch
-On a table
-On a blanket in the woods
-In the dead of night, under the stars in a an empty field on wet grass (personal favourite)
-Airplane restroom (mile high club)
-In a snuggie
-Car
-Tent
-Sleeping Bag

And there's so many more options. That's the fun of it. :)
hahaha, your answer is my favorite:) so funny. in a snuggie made my laugh i want one of those so fricken bad!
but actually these gave me some ideas...it's just getting around the parents that is the problem lol. thanks!

come by rescue me May 12th 2009 12:12 AM
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u should try quite a few places i have had sex:
dining room table
chair
bunker in kitchen
the bathroom floor
the bath
shower
couch
carpet in living room
up against the bedroom wall
in a field in a tent (my favourite):D
garage floor (quite cold)
back of the bus haha

lilymadeline27 May 12th 2009 02:28 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by come by rescue me (Post 138031)
u should try quite a few places i have had sex:
dining room table
chair
bunker in kitchen
the bathroom floor
the bath
shower
couch
carpet in living room
up against the bedroom wall
in a field in a tent (my favourite):D
garage floor (quite cold)
back of the bus haha
idk if any of those sound very possible for me. except maybe couch and chair haha but thanks ;)

blue-and-pink-kisses May 12th 2009 02:35 AM
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haha well a place to do it is in a party camper!! hehe funny as it sounds thats where ive done it!! lol hehe a car isnt bad, but make sure it isnt in a public place or youll get a fine lol.

Good luck! :)

St.Vincent May 12th 2009 02:38 AM
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Yeah, let's not just make this a "sexy places I had sexy sex" list. Might not be so productive :p

As for having sex in the car, it's a felony... is there any time you can be at someone's house with no one home? If you're having trouble finding places to have sex, and you're scared of being caught by the law or your parents, you might just want to wait a while until it's "safe" or at least decrease the instances when you could be at risk.

Personally, I feel like the sex is a little cheap when you're guiltily dodging your parents for your kicks. Some people like the edge, but I find that I at least have a better time having sex on a clear conscious, and the realities of my parents and the law tends to weigh on that. Just something to consider, maybe not necessarily what you wanted to hear.

Hdjdjdjduvieg May 12th 2009 02:55 AM
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Originally Posted by lilymadeline27 (Post 138008)
hahaha, your answer is my favorite:) so funny. in a snuggie made my laugh i want one of those so fricken bad!
but actually these gave me some ideas...it's just getting around the parents that is the problem lol. thanks!
Glad I could be of help. :p Snuggie is great. Just the name of it makes it sounds so cuddly for cutesie sex. :) Shower is a good place, too. Do yours or his parents ever go out? Just when they are going to go out, have him or you ask if you guys can have a get together. You can even pull the "Oh, you guys will only be gone an hour, don't you trust us?" shpeel. You don't really need all that much time, for a few good sessions. Good luck!

lilymadeline27 May 12th 2009 06:40 PM
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yeah i really don't wanna hear the whole "oh if you have no safe place then don't do it" face it. we're 16. we've done it. we WILL do it again lol. just needed to know how to better get away with it under the circumstances that we have.

Lizzie May 12th 2009 06:46 PM
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Originally Posted by lilymadeline27 (Post 138646)
yeah i really don't wanna hear the whole "oh if you have no safe place then don't do it" face it. we're 16. we've done it. we WILL do it again lol. just needed to know how to better get away with it under the circumstances that we have.
Well honestly it is a good rule, because if you don’t have a place to have sex, then where are you going to put the baby’s crib if you get pregnant? I mean seriously, if you are so young that you can’t even find a place to do it without committing a crime, then you probably shouldn’t be doing this. Sex is a seriously thing and should not be taken lightly. I understand that your are already sexually active, but that does not mean you need to be irresponsible about this. Here on TH we do not give advice that is illegal. And having sex in public, including your car, is illegal in most countries. And like I said earlier, and a few other posters, a felony in America. The consequences are just not worth the risk. So basically your only choices now are in doors, in a home. So either your home, your boyfriend’s home, or what I think is a little icky, a friend’s home. Other then that, there is not much advice we can give you. And on that note, I think the advice is repeating. So I am going to close this thread.


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