gender identity and puberty?

[Blondie14]

I am intersex and going through a more female centered puberty. I constantly feel like I like the direction my puberty is going into. I started puberty at 12. And since I have gotten taller longer legs a deeper voice without actually breaking wider hips and more feminine look in general. But I realized a while ago that I didn't want to develop into a man as things progressed and that I like what I'm growing into. Right now I look like a girl only thing is that I have male parts I'm taller than average and my chest is flatter. It makes me look more pear shape than hourglass. But I have always been rather male minded and masculine. I took the sage and Cogiati test and am rather androgynous but socialize in a feminine manner and think like a man. Most of my friends are guys. And I in general enjoy typical stuff expected for a 14 year old guy. At the same time I still just feel as though I'm more of a girl than anything. I guess it's because with clothing on I look identical to most girls I know rather than guys. And I don't mind dressing up as female just not everyday I only like it though because it seems like it matches more maybe because of society? But I've never really felt inherently female. I thought I was a boy before I started puberty nowadays I'm very confused about it because I have female characteristics. I don't really feel feminine though but I'm happy with my body and how I am naturally. I kind of just feel like I'm more butch/tomboyish than anything or like I said androgynous.

Is this normal?

[livingdeadboy]

Normal? No not quite, but it's certainly not a bad thing. Just be yourself in all things and you can't go wrong. I have 13 brothers and sisters, 2 of which are lgbt, besides me. Nothing wrong with that either. Just be yourself and let nobody makes you change.

[Apple Orchard Ghost]

Whatever makes you feel right and comfortable is normal for you. You can be both a boy and a girl, or neither. Just do you.

[Blondie14]

Originally Posted by livingdeadboy

Normal? No not quite, but it's certainly not a bad thing. Just be yourself in all things and you can't go wrong. I have 13 brothers and sisters, 2 of which are lgbt, besides me. Nothing wrong with that either. Just be yourself and let nobody makes you change.

I am not really gay or anything I like girls but I don't really consider it a heterosexual attraction.

When I said normal I just meant for what I am?

[Coffee.]

I'm going to move this to the LGBT, Sexuality and Gender Identity forum because although this thread deals with aspects of puberty, it is mainly focused on gender identity.

Gender identity is a complicated matter. Honestly, how do you define yourself? It's okay to be an androgynous woman, somebody not very girly, but it's also okay to be a feminine guy. You don't have to fit 100% in one bubble in order to identify that way. You can also identify simply as intersex, and take aspects of each gender to make yourself as you wish. It's your identity.

[Blondie14]

Originally Posted by Coffee.

I'm going to move this to the LGBT, Sexuality and Gender Identity forum because although this thread deals with aspects of puberty, it is mainly focused on gender identity.

Gender identity is a complicated matter. Honestly, how do you define yourself? It's okay to be an androgynous woman, somebody not very girly, but it's also okay to be a feminine guy. You don't have to fit 100% in one bubble in order to identify that way. You can also identify simply as intersex, and take aspects of each gender to make yourself as you wish. It's your identity.

I was actually hoping to hear from other people who went through a female puberty or were going through it.

I think I'm like a butch or at least androgynous lesbian. I was just wondering if there were other girls who also felt like comfortable with their body but socialized mainly with guys and was more on the masculine side of things.

One thing I've noticed though I like dressing as a woman.


I feel a bit like intersex describes my condition that's why I veer away from this concept.