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Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 2nd 2013, 02:32 PM
Every time I'm with my boyfriend we will have sex. If I sleep over (which I normally do now) we will normally have sex twice. I see him 2/3 times a week.
I'm just wondering is it normal to have sex every time you're together? I thought we would have stopped as much by now we've been together for about 7 months.
Do you have sex every time you're with your boyfriend/girlfriend?
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Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 2nd 2013, 02:44 PM
My boyfriend and I don't have sex all the time, but if it has been about a few days or so and I'm not on my monthly, then we will do it. My boyfriend forgets to buy condoms all the time though, so, that delays it as well. (And I hate it, lol) When we do buy condoms, we have sex once or twice. Earlier in our relationship, we would have sex 7 times in a row. I think 7 months is early, but once it's more than a year or so, it will die down a bit. Sex is fun, don't get me wrong, but there will be a time where it becomes too much in your situation and it could get annoying. At least, in my perspective it would. I might start wondering if the relationship is only about sex or even love. Basically, sometimes you need a break. Sex is a lot of work, man. lol
Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 2nd 2013, 02:54 PM
Depends on both our moods and whether we can be bothered. We do have sex quite a lot of the times I see him though (: Same, 7 months on a week tomorrow.
Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 2nd 2013, 02:58 PM
I'm normally always in the mood for it and look for a girlfriend that is often in the mood too, because to me it's important. I'd say having sex often is a good thing
Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 3rd 2013, 04:34 AM
I've been with mine for five years, and it depends. We actually have sex a lot more now than when we first became sexually active. But there are some weeks where I'm less in the mood or he's busy, and then there are weeks that we have more. So eh. We don't every time we see each other, but we spend a lot of time together.
Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 3rd 2013, 10:15 PM
Like everyone else is saying there is no real standard, what ever makes you happy. I would LOVE to use my ex (who I dated for 2 years) as an example but there is to much stuff that affected our sex lives and why we stopped for me to want to go there so yeah, I won't bother sharing it as a valid example. It's all about what you want. If you don't feel like having sex then say no, but if you genuinely like having sex whenever you see him then don't worry about it, it's what you like
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Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 4th 2013, 02:35 AM
It depends on the person and their preferences.
I've been with my guy for over a year and a half, and I usually have sex with him every time I see him, but I only get to see him once a week, so that's pretty normal. However, sometimes we're just not in the mood and it can end up being 2 or even 3 weeks before we have the opportunity to have sex again. Other times we're just more interested in spending time together or doing other things together than just having naked fun.
As for the question of is it normal; sure it's normal. Different people have different sex drives, and there's nothing abnormal about it at all.
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Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 5th 2013, 04:20 AM
I actually love this thread cause i've asked myself the same thing. We live an hour away from each other and our work schedules never line up. So we maybe get to spend the night with each other once every other week and then during that weekend we see each other it's sex every day multiple times a day. I always thought that was too crazy. But realistically we don't really see each other that much so it's normally. We just really like each other so I don't see the big deal.
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Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 7th 2013, 09:02 PM
It's perfectly normal to have a lot of sex. What matters is whether or not YOU feel it's too much. If you feel it is, just spend some time doing other activities you enjoy together and building intimacy in that way as opposed to through physical contract.
I usually have sex four times a week between both my partners. I see each for one to two days a week, so that's about sex once, sometimes twice per day with each partner. And this is after being together for three years and a year respectively. So yes, it's perfectly fine to be having a lot of sex even after being together a while.
Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 8th 2013, 06:07 AM
jus talking to my bf on the phone and online makes me drop my pants off! imagine living with a boyfriend lol would always be in bed lol. but we are pretty new so i want to keep myself virginal except for kissing privately. but i know how op feels
Re: Is it normal to have sex every time you're with each other? -
July 8th 2013, 08:57 PM
I've been dating my girlfriend for over two years now and we typically see each other every weekend. We see each other a lot more now considering I had to quit my job due to certain circumstances, so I don't really need to wait till Friday afternoon to go see her for the weekend. But assuming I had a job that was during weekdays, we'd have sex once or twice a weekend. To me, a good weekend is having sex once; a great weekend would be twice. A fantastic weekend would be 3+ times, and I don't think we've had sex more than twice in a three day period.
The problem with only seeing each other every weekend is the anticipation. I get excited for the weekends because I expect to have sex at some point during the weekend. She and I both know that if we don't have sex, I will be disappointed. I'm horny 24/7 when I'm with her and I'd be a little bit upset going home considering I didn't really satisfy any cravings. Granted, if she's on her period or her pH is off-balance and I know for a fact that I'm not getting sex, then I'll take any opportunity during the weekend to watch porn on her computer and get it over with so I won't feel as bad. I'll never watch it in front of her, however, because she just isn't attracted to that sort of thing. This leaves little room for watching porn if I ever need to take matters into my own hands, but I've never really had a problem. The real question is "would it be normal if I didn't expect sex every time I saw her?" If she's on her period, I know I won't be having period sex any time soon even though I'd consider it. If my girlfriend is having problems with her pH, we won't have sex simply because I'm not THAT gross. If I know for certain that she's about to get off her period, I'm going to hope and pray that she gets off her period Sunday so that I can take her to poundtown before I leave to go back home. For the most part, however, it'd be weird for me to not expect sex at some point. No, I don't anticipate to have sex every time we see each other; honestly, I could have sex every 12 hours and I'd be well satisfied, but I know that realistically...I'm only expected to get lucky once every couple or so days. Realistically, if we moved in together (not possible for a while)...we'd probably end up having sex even less because I'm about 99% more horny than she is at all times, and I'd probably get sexually frustrated and end up having a high dependency on porn to keep me going.
If you've only been going out for 7 months, you've been going out for a while but it's really too soon to judge what is and isn't normal. If you both are always horny for each other, there's not a problem. It doesn't matter if you have sex 20 times a day, 2, or 0. The important thing is that you're both sexually satisfied. I know how difficult it is, but I think it'd be much more satisfying to make sure that you're not having sex because you have the opportunity, but because you both are in the mood for that opportunity. There's a distinct difference in the two. If you have sex "because he's here" or "because we have the house to ourselves" rather than because you're actually in the mood then I'd say that you have a problem. But if you have sex when things come naturally, I'd say that's more of the normal route that relationships should take. Granted, it's not easy to have a little bit thinking "damn...he looks real good right now since he's with me..." but it's something that we have to learn to control.