Lonely :(

[netanya]

I feel lonely in my relationship.... i feel iv drifted away from my friends and he's the only one i see anymore.. but lately i feel like hes drifting from me too and its only been 3 months. i dont want to just end the relationship because it seems i have a history of ending relationships early because i feel like they (the guys) dont care anymore... iv had 10 boyfriends in the past 2/3 years each lasting a few months, so i want to try and make this work... help?

[icedoverfire]

Hi netanya,

How often do you see him?
Maybe sit him down and tell him exactly what's going on in your head? Communication is the base for any relationship.

- ice

[Hollifire]

If you feel strongly about this, I would suggest talking to him. You may feel like he's drifting away but in reality it could be all in your head. Grab him, sit him down & be honest with your feelings. Don't hold anything back. If you sincerely open up to him & let him know how you're feeling, I'm sure he'll let you know exactly what's going on. Hang in there, it will get better.

[Harmony♥]

Communication. In order to fix this problem, you'll need to identify it. If you think he's drifting, talk to him about that. Get to the bottom of things before you make any hasty decisions, like ending it too soon. If you feel lonely, maybe take some time and spend it with your friends.

[wasas]

You must talk to him. I know it's kind of scary, almost risky feeling to express your feelings especially since you guys haven't been dating all that long, but it is very imprortant to do to stop history from repeating itself. Chances are if he wants to be in the relationship he will hear how your feeling and fix that, and if he doesn't feel that way then you probably should break up, and that's when you can do that, but it isn't fair to do it without discussion. Good luck girl All the best.

[x-Nicole-x]

Don't make the relationship last longer just because you want feel like that's what you should do.

But talk to him. And talk to your friends, friends are waaay better than boyfriends. <3

[ForgetMeNot9]

You should definitely talk to him before you jump into making a decision. It could be all of a misunderstanding, and if he's aware of how you feel then maybe you can both work together to fix it. Good luck with everything. And hang in there, you'll find the right guy for you.

[PSY]

Something no one has mentioned yet is the importance of having balance in one's life. You can't let a romantic relationship be the primary focus in your life. Friendships and other interests/commitments need to be maintained as well. I feel like you both may have neglected other areas of your lives when you first started dating, and now you're starting to grow tired of the monotonous lifestyle you lead. Communicate with your boyfriend, but also try to re-connect with other important areas of your life. It's the unique experiences we have as individuals that make relationships so interesting - we can bring variety into a relationship, which keeps things from getting dull and makes us want to invest in the long-term success of our relationships! =)