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I'm too lonely...

I need help...

I have S.A./Depression and A.D.D. and I can't talk to girls... There was a girl I liked for atleast a year and she was gorgeous but I found out a couple days ago she has a boyfriend. I like her so much and I want her to be my girlfriend but I can't because she is already in a relationship.

What do I do? This is killing me and it's made my depression come back and I have done nothing productive for the last few days because I can't get her off my mind.

I'm broken inside.

-Matthew

Re: I'm too lonely...

Hey, Matthew!

Sorry you're going through this, things seem pretty tough for you right now. I can understand how this would be really disappointing for you. Eventually you'll start to feel better though, it won't always be like this. In the meantime, do you have any friends you can spend time with to take your mind off this girl? Might be good to talk to someone if you can, because bottling this up could make it a lot worse getting through.

As for your SA (social anxiety, right?), could you try and do things that make you uncomfortable to help you get past it? I don't mean jump into a really uncomfortable thing, just little things at first. Like starting small conversations with people. Kind of hard but it's worth a shot, right? Little steps can always contribute.

Do some things you enjoy to try and cheer yourself up. Hobbies hobbies hobbies! Go for a walk to clear your head, play some games, write poetry or simply vent in a notebook. Watch movies, read... etc. Distractions are the best things right now. Speaking of, do you have any pets? They're really wonderful to have around all the time, but they're especially great when you're lonely. Lastly, remember these feelings won't last forever. Hang in there, it gets better. :)

Re: I'm too lonely...

Hey there. I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. Believe it or not, I'm feeling the same way that you are feeling. I know how hard the feeling is when you really like someone a lot, but you know for a fact that you can never have that person. As far as giving advice, don't put yourself down for this. The girl that you're talking about is only one among very many others. I suggest that you should just move on and forget about her. I mean, she's probably not even thinking about you, so why bother thinking about her? There are many other girls out there, and with patience and time, you will come across the one that's right for you. Besides, this girl that you're thinking about is only going to deepen your depression the more you think about her. Keep yourself occupied with activities or something that you enjoy doing. I know it will be hard to not be thinking about this, but believe me, I've been through this kind of thing before, and it's never fun.

I don't mean to put you down in any way, but you're wasting your time thinking about someone who's not only not aware that you like her, but also, she's someone who probably doesn't care about you. Don't be broken up inside because of this. Your happiness doesn't depend on one person. Happiness is a choice that's always been within your grasps, and you don't need to depend on someone to achieve full happiness. I believe that what you're experiencing right now is only temporary, and you will come out of it in time. I hope my advice has proved helpful to you, and best wishes to you that things will get better along the way (and they will). Let me know if you ever need anything more.