Feeling lonely and stupid.

[Rosemma]

I just feel so lonely.
I really feel like I have nothing, no one to talk to.
Except for a boyfriend who was out with friends all night last night. Then had a couple of hours sleep and went to see them again today.
How do I know? Because I just called and then just felt stupid and more alone than I did before.

I suppose it was just horrible to hear that when I called. I suppose I just wanted or expected to hear something else. He saw them all day, then all night and now again this morning.

I dont mind him going out and seeing friends, they are all nice people.
It just makes me feel more lonely. Its not his fault.
I just wish I never called, I felt so dumb and I just didnt know what to say.
Why couldnt he have called me this morning and told me instead?

He said maybe he will see me tonight, but even if he does he will arrive late and leave early. And in the time inbetween he will just be tired. And he will tell me how tired he is and I wont know if I should scream or cry.

[Moyshi]

Hi Rosemma,
Can you sit down and have a talk with him, and suggest he spend more time with you? It's great that you give him space to hang out with his friends, but try hinting to him that you'd like to see him too. It's difficult when one person in a relationship is trying harder to get together with the other, so hopefully he can see you a bit more once he realizes that you'd like to see him more often.

[NuHalo]

This may just be a temporary thing... It's okay for some people to go out with their friends and get some time to themselves. He may very well spend more time with you after today. At this point, I would say just be patient and see if he decides to spend some more alone time with you. If things proceed the way they are, I say first try and take the initiative and ask if you two can spend a day just together. If he protests... let him do what he wills, but next time you see eachother, that would be when you need tot alk to him about this. That your needs in the relationship aren't being met and you want something done about it. If you are patient, things will work out and take their course, I assure you.

Take care,
Shaun.

[XC77]

When he out with his Friends Try to find something to occupy your time Ex a book or have a friend over or anything you can find.

[Rosemma]

Thank you all.
I thought Id talk to him to tell him how I feel because it does happen a lot.
I know what you all said was true so I thoght about what I wanted to say then told him.
He seemed reassuring and told me he knows I have a lot of work and things to deal with at the moment.

I suppose he is right but even if he knows I couldnt come along he could let me know that he is going *sigh*
Anyway I suppose I will see how it goes now as it might be different.
Thanks again.